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Hello,
Last night I was fingering my girlfriend with two fingers while holding penis with the same hand, I notice some white fluid that looked like cum on my two fingers that were fingering her and I freaked because I didn't know if that was my cum that came from me or that it came from her. I dont remember cumming but it looked like cum. We went and got plan b one step today around noon and she took it. Will the plan b work and keep her from getting pregnant? It had to be taken before the 24 hour mark which gives the best chance of effectiveness right?

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Yep, plan B is at its most effective when taken within the first 24 hours -- around 89%. This means that your girlfriend's risk of pregnancy has been greatly reduced. The next step would be to wait for 2 weeks and then your girlfriend can take a pregnancy test.

However, it sounds like you think you probably didn't ejaculate -- that means the risk of pregnancy here was already fairly low. I also am not sure if there was any direct genital contact, and if there wasn't, that also reduces the risk of pregnancy.

But I suggest that you two read through this article to maybe start thinking about methods of contraception that will work for you guys, since you are beginning to take part in sexual activity that may pose a pregnancy risk (if there was genital contact). Birth Control Bingo!

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Thank you for your reply! No there was any direct gential contact, I just had my penis in the same hand with my ring, pinkie, and thumb while fingering my girlfriend with my index and middle finger (sorry for being graphic). I did not rub my penis on her vagina, I don't think I was close to it, but the room was dark.
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And what would that white stuff be if it came from her?
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HI There,

That white stuff could have been your girlfriend's vaginal discharge.

You might find this article helpful in evaluating pregnancy risks:

Pregnancy Scared?

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So as long as I didn't have my penis in her vagina, which I didn't, the pregnancy risk is very very low?
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Also she had her period maybe like 4 or 5 days before could the white stuff be a result of that?
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Sounds like you could perhaps use some information on vaginal discharges. Why don't you get started with this basic guide: Honorably Discharged: A Guide to Vaginal Secretions?

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Thank you for the info, so it's normal for her to have the white discharge. I just been reading on the Internet (I know I shouldn't) and it says plan B Is 95% effective to stop pregnancy in the first 24 hours but I also read that you can still be pregnant. I'm just confused, if my girlfriend and i engaged in this act around 3 or 4 am and she took the plan b one step at around 12:30 pm or 1 pm then we are within the 95% but she could still be pregnant? Have you ever heard of anyone being pregnant still even after taking the plan b one step the next day?
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Like all others methods of contraception, Plan B is not 100% effective. So yes, even when taking it within 24 hours, some people will still become pregnant.

However, in order for pregnancy to happen, people have to actually engage in the kinds of sex which can create a pregnancy. When someone has not, a pregnancy is not going top occur, period.

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What would you think my risk would be from what I described earlier?
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HI Guide,

If you read back through the conversation, you'll see that we've already answered this and given you the information you need to evaluate your own risk.

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I just want to thank you all for your help. I hope everything works out.
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You're most welcome. Feel free to come back if you have any other questions.

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I have another question. Does the effective of plan b lower during ovulation? And I read on here that if sperm is on your fingers then goes in the vagina that the risk is Lower than having direct gential to gential sex is that right?
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We still don't have a lot of data on how effective Plan B is or isn't during specific times of the cycle.

However, Plan B works just like combined oral contraceptive pills in that suppressing ovulation is not the ONLY way it works to prevent pregnancy, so we know that it absolutely can work even when someone who has used it is ovulating or has already ovulated in their cycle.

Per your other questions with your potential risk, I feel like it's already been made very clear there wasn't a real risk here.

For more on that, you may want to check today's advice column: http://www.scarleteen.com/article/advice/how_do_you_avoid_getting_pregnant_after_giving_a_handjob_or_oral_sex

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Thank you
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Sorry but I have another question, after taking plan b is bleeding after the next few days a sign that it worked? If my girlfriend took it on Sunday and hasn't bled by now is that a problem? I read online that there should be bleeding after a few days of taking it and also with your period.
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There are no "signs" Plan B worked other than someone not becoming pregnant.

Bleeding is a possible side effect, but that's all it is. Some people experience that while others don't, and it's not related to the methods effectiveness in any way.

So, I don't know where you read there "should" be bleeding, but wherever it was, that's not correct information.

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Ok thank you again, I'm sorry if I'm bothering you with a lot of questions
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It's okay to ask us these questions: that's what we're here for. [Smile]

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Hello back again. I just wanted to say that I remember what happen that night a little more and I remember doing the finger activity with my girlfriend then after that getting oral sex from her and cumming a lot into my pants. My question is I shouldn't be able to ejaculate that close in between right? So I think that the white stuff on my fingers had to have come from her because I came after that happened
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HI Guide,

It really doesn't sound like this changes anything. As Heather said above, there's only a pregnancy risk when the types of sexual activities that can cause pregnancy have occurred.

Do you feel like you understand what can and can't lead to pregnancy? If not, we're happy to go over the parts that you're not quite sure about.

It sounds like you're having a lot of fear and anxiety around this. What do you think will allay that?

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Yes could you please go over them with me. I just feel like this because I didn't want to have any type of encounter with her vagina and my penis. It was never my intention to get sperm on my fingers and stick it in her. That's why when I saw whatever that discharge was on my fingers I freaked. Sorry if I'm stressing too much.
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Hey,

It's really okay. I said what I said about stress, not as a criticism, but out of concern. stress isn't any fun! [Smile]

How about you go through these two articles:
Pregnancy Scared?

Where DID I Come From? A Refresher Course in Human Reproduction

and this link that Heather gave you already:

http://www.scarleteen.com/article/advice/how_do_you_avoid_getting_pregnant_after_giving_a_handjob_or_oral_sex

then if there's anything confusing or worrying we can go over that specifically. Sound good?

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Thank you for listening orrr reading this. I looked it over, and I want to ask that if sperm was on the fingers, there would have to be a lot right? So if that was so that would mean that could have the same risk as unprotected sex?
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The article talks about semen being on soap or in water but what if it gets on your hand during intimate times?
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Then you need to know there are possible STI risks. But sperm cells are a lot less resilient than pathogens, so it's safe to say that pregnancy is most likely a non-issue.

Might it be an issue when someone ejaculates fully onto their hand then immediately rubs it all unto someone's vulva? Yes. But it does not sound like that's at all what happened here.

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Ok thank you again
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Hey just need to ask another general question: what is the likelihood that someone would get pregnant with puttin there penis in a vagina?
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Hi Guide,

As the article above says, if there is unprotected genital to genital contact there is a risk of pregnancy. If you ejaculated in the vagina obviously the risk would be much higher. Unprotected genital contact also carries the risk of STIs.

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I'm sorry, I meant to say without penetration
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The data we have on how often pregnancy occurs is for genital intercourse, where people's genitals are interlocked in some way.

"How far in" or "is it all the way in" and things like that aren't considerations in that data, because the factors that matter are the ones we keep talking about: IF there was direct genital-to-genital contact and IF there were seminal fluids.

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Ok thank you make sense. Also this might be stupid but my girlfriend says since she has taking the plan b that her stomach feels weird and she thinks that it's because their could be a baby. Could she be able to know this?
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If she was far enough along in a pregnancy to be having symptoms, then she'd be far enough along to take a pregnancy test and get a positive result.

It sounds like you two are having a very hard time letting go of this. So, I'd suggest she take a pregnancy test so you can both see that negative result and then let it go and move on.

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