I hate to bother Scarleteen with inane questions, but I heard something tonight, and 95% of me thinks it's false but since I've never heard of it before I wanted to run it past the experts.
A guy was telling me that after sex with his ex-girlfriend (they were long-term exclusive and did not use a condom), his ex would "push" the semen out. I was very puzzled by this. Can women really do this??? Surely either he was confused or the ex-girlfriend was using a euphemism or something?
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I am not sure what he was talking about with "pushing" semen out. But since people with vaginas, like all people, are subject to gravity, some ejaculate will leak back out after unprotected intercourse. That is not unique to your friend's girlfriend, but just something that happens after unprotected intercourse with ejaculation.
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Just curious- did this guy explain through what means/technically how this "pushing" was happening?
There *is* a common misconception online on far less reputable sites than this one (Yahoo Answers, etc.) that "pushing out cum" is possible. It's just not- judging by the context of a number of posters, it seems the idea might be a combination of gravity (semen dripping out) and wishful thinking (imaginary superhuman ability that might cancel out a pregnancy risk).
Regardless of word technicalities, because you note that this couple did not use condoms, might I assume you are asking if it is possible to avoid pregnancy by "pushing" semen out? This would have no effect on pregnancy risk (which would be HIGH), because even if this "pushing" WAS possible, it would essentially be the same as wiping semen from the vagina after sex. And it is clear why that does not protect from pregnancy, right?
So, if the guy you were talking to was certain that "pushing" was the couple's only used method of birth control, I have some doubt whether he was in on the whole story.
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Just to be clear? With ANYONE, *most* ejaculate will come back out of whatever orifice it's put into, unless we're talking about the mouth and someone swallows. And that doesn't have any impact, as Claire explained, on conception.
So, it sounds like the most likely thing with what this person was telling you is that they thought that was some kind of special, shiny skill, versus what our bodies just do all by themselves, with or without effort.
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quote:Originally posted by BustaEve: A guy was telling me that after sex with his ex-girlfriend (they were long-term exclusive and did not use a condom), his ex would "push" the semen out. I was very puzzled by this. Can women really do this??? Surely either he was confused or the ex-girlfriend was using a euphemism or something?
Let's assume he didn't mean all the semen is pushed out and was just remarking on something he thought was cool and not on some pregnancy prevention tip. When you have an orgasm various muscles move to cause the vagina to contract. You do not have to have an orgasm though, to cause vaginal contractions. You can intentionally cause vaginal contractions whenever you want. So technically, it would probably be more accurate to say it is "squeezed" out rather then "pushed" out. Semen is a liquid after all, so if you contract hard enough it either ends up forced farther in or it will be forced out. Not really necessary since gravity will do the work for you.
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