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lizzylala17
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So last month I got my period several days before it was actually due, which is normal for me. This month, the only kinds of sex I participated in were manual (his hands were clean, no sperm around anywhere) oral ( once again, sperm didn't go near my gentials) and protected anal (he wore a condom and didn't ejactulate inside of me.) I haven't gotten my period this month and last month I got it on the 6th. Like I said, I'm usually several days early. So I'm not freaking out over a pregnancy risk, I'm not stressing or anything else I can think of to make it late. What's going on?
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Have you seen this list of possible reasons for a late period?
M.I.A or, Dude, Where's My Period?

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I guess the only thing could just be being irregular, but I haven't skipped a period since I was 12. I'm not on birth control and as for the weight loss and excercising, I wish! And I'm almost positive I ovulated last month, though I can't really tell you what day.
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Every once in a while, periods are just going to be late for no obvious reason. Not knowing what's going on can suck, but a late or missed period from time to time isn't a big deal.

If your next period is wonky, too, it's a good idea to discus it with your gynecologist. But for now, I'd not sweat it.

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I just hate wondering where it is, because it makes me worry and gets me paranoid wondering if I'm pregnant when I know the chances of that happening are slim to none.
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If you want to rule out pregnancy for sure, a pregnancy test will take care of that. So if you want to put your mind at ease, you can always just take a test.

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Do you think there's a possibility that I could be?
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If you're concerned that you could be pregnant, can you walk yourself through these risk assessment steps, please?

http://www.scarleteen.com/forum/ultimatebb.php?/ubb/get_topic/f/28/t/007116.html

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I really don't think I could be. It's just being paranoid because of my late period I guess
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I'm starting to think I may have some anxiety issues. My mom has anxiety problems and takes medicine for it. Every time my boyfriend and I participate in some form of sex we're always safe. (making sure hands are washed, wearing condoms, etc.) But it seems like I'm always scared there's a chance I might end up pregnant and when my period turns up to be late that anxiety goes through the roof.
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Do you experience anxiety in other areas of your life, as well?

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Somewhat, but mostly in this area. This is my first sexual relationship and new experiences (regardless of how safe they may be) make the anxiety flare up.
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Do you find that new experiences, whether they're sexual in nature or not, make you anxious?

Sometimes anxiety over pregnancy risks that persist even when we know they're not really founded in fact can be an indication that something else doesn't feel quite right. Sometimes these fears mask anxious feelings about the sexual activity itself, or about the relationship, or about something else entirely.

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I see what you're saying. Now that you mention it, new experiences can put me on the apprehensive side. I love my boyfriend, we've been together for a while now and things that I used to freak out over ( I can remember posting a question asking if fingering would get me pregnant) I can now relax amd enjoy knowing I'm not going to get pregnant. However, anal sex is relatively new for me, and though he wore a condom and pulled out way before he came, I guess the newness of it has me freaked out when I shouldn't be. In fact, I felt completely fine doing it until I discovered my period was late. I read that using a condom and pulling out has a 99.92% effectiveness during vaginal intercourse, so is that even safer during anal?
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Yes, there is usually a lower pregnancy risk with anal intercourse, so if you used a condom and none of his ejaculate came into contact with your genital area, there's really nothing to be concerned about. Using condoms for anal sex is a really good practice, pregnancy risks aside. The anal tissues are delicate, and using a condom, with plenty of lube, can make penetration gentler and safer. Plus, infections are just more possible with anal intercourse and using a condom keeps risk of STI transmission, plus just transmission of everyday germs and bacteria, risk to a minimum.

You know, it's completely okay to take a break from anal intercourse for a while to allow yourself to get used to the idea. Do you think that might help you?

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The type of condoms we use say they're lubricated, but should we buy lube for next time, in case we do it again? I think I'll definitely be slowing it down some and I think he'll understand. He's never tried to push me and I don't think he'd start now. I just don't want to be doing something that scares me in the long run. Is there any thing I can do to become more comfortable in my sex life and not so neurotic?
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Hi lizzylala17. The condoms that are pre-lubricated only have a very small amount of lubricant on them. For them to work properly and for things to be comfortable, you should always use extra lube with them for vaginal or anal intercourse [Smile]
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Updating you guys. Today my period is due and it is no where to be seen. I was in a good place earlier and now every time I go to the bathroom and I see no blood I just want to cry. My anxiety is controlling my life right now. I can't get a pregnancy test because I don't have my license and my mom is VERY against my being sexually active. I'm terrified to tell her my period is late because she'll freak and assume I'm pregnant. My boyfriend is out of town and won't be back until next week, and ever since our last pregnancy scare (which actually was a scare, I guess you can say) he gets extremely worried too when I tell him my period is late or bring it up, so I haven't since I want him to enjoy his vacation. But I'm miserable. I don't know what to do.
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Do you keep track of when your periods start? I'm wondering if they start after the same number of days each month, or if the number of days varies.

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I try, but they vary and almost always start earlier than expected. In May, I started on the 12, in June, I started on the 6th. I'm feeling some of my PMS symptoms (sore breasts,lower back pain, emotional) and I saw a teensy tiny speck of blood when I used the restroom.
By the way, I think I may have ovulated later than I usually do last month.. Is that what's throwing this month's period off? And why would that have changed? Thank you for all of your help.

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All sorts of things can throw the menstrual cycle off: including stress, illness (even minor illness like a cold), or just the body deciding to do something different for a change.

Your body doesn't know that it's the 6th, so it doesn't know that it's supposed to start shedding it's uterine lining on that day. [Smile] If your body is showing the usual signs that it's premenstrual, I'd say chances are really good that your period is on its way.

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I think you're right, my anxiety probably just put nasty little voices in my head telling me all sorts of things. Thanks for your patience [Smile]
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Hey guys, I'm sorry to bother you, but weird stuff is going on. Last night I was feeling all of my PMS symptoms, so I put in a tampon. I took it out after a little bit, just to see if I was bleeding, and sure enough, there was red and brownish blood. I went to bed thinking, yay, I'll probably get my period tomorrow then! But when i got up, no blood on my underwear, no blood when I wiped. I inserted another tampon and all I got on it was brownish discharge, maybe it was old blood, I'm not sure. What is going on?
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