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HI SCARLETEEN,im 32 married since 2 overweight wife is 30yrs and shes 80 kgs...we have been married since 2 years...and the prob is that i cant penetrate my penis during sex...its soo frustrating...feeling deprressed about it...i get penis is about 6 cms after erection(i know its small)but is this the reason behind this..i checked my thyroid levels a few years back-normal report..please help me out..what should i do...i cant penetrate in...and i loose my stiffness once i know tht its not gettin in....plz help!!!


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Your weight and the size of your penis don't really have anything to do with this, and neither does your thyroid.

A few questions: have you tried different positions and angles? How about using your hand to help guide your penis in? Are you using extra lube?

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hi karybu....well i have only tried the man on top till wife says thts shes uncomfortable with she being on top of me---i mean the squating position...any other ways??i tried guidin my penis many times...but dont understand whats not using any lubricants..can u advice on that too...


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Hi Yoko,

Is you partner feeling super duper aroused before any kind of sex you share? Are they really, really desiring penis-in-vagina intercourse at that time, rather than another kind of sex (like say, oral sex)?

Are you taking your time together and doing all the other kinds of sex - like oral and manual (with hands) for instance before? Another thing with this is that putting pressure on yourselves to have penis-in-vagina intercourse cause cause you both to feel fustrated - as you said - but feeling fustrated and depressed can mean we can't relax enough to become propely aroused. When a person with a vulva is aroused, the vagina becomse much more flexible and accepts body parts or toys inside, almost seeming to 'pull' body parts in when we feel completely aroused. This means that when your partner doesn't feel very aroused, entry into the vagina is going to be difficult.

Here's an article for you to read together, it's about pain with intercourse but similar things can help with entry being difficult:

From Ow to Wow

As for personal lubricant, places which sell condoms usually sell lubricant, and it comes in tubes or bottles.

Hope this helps!

[ 03-27-2012, 10:37 AM: Message edited by: Saffron Reimi ]

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