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JenBug24
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Okay... So I had sex with my partner, after which I experienced a little bleeding. Oh, and just to clarify (as I know sex is such a broad term), it was with use of fingering. I was a little worried as I hurt a little during sex too- I think I just wasn't aroused enough at time of penetration- but I remembered reading something about sometimes the corona can rupture causing small amounts of blood, so I didn't worry too much, just consulted the article again on here when I got home.

I am a little more concerned now though, as it's rather uncomfortable. Although the bleeding stopped within 12 hours, the vaginal area is itchy and a tad sore and there's an external 'burn' sensation when I urinate.

She is my first sexual partner, I'm not hers, but she has been tested (neg), so I'm not convinced it could be an STI, but the... lets say 'location' ... of where we had sex was not particularly hygienic (swimming pool's public changing cubicle). We had just had showers though, as we'd already been for a swim. Could it have something to do with location? I have since washed thoroughly with lukewarm water a couple of times, but it's still itchy and uncomfortable and at times sore.

If it's something of concern, I will go to a Clinic, but thought I'd consult the wonders of Scarleteen first. And I don't particularly fancy going on my own, as my partner has now gone away for a couple of days for MUN.

What do you think it could be? And do you think I should go to the S.H. Clinic (if so, how urgent?)?

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How long has this itching and burning been going on?

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Since I woke up this morning (it woke me up). We were at the pool yesterday, so I guess it hasn't really been very long :L

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And how severe would you say each -- the itch and the burn -- are?

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Not extreme, but enough to make me not be able to comfortably stay in any position (standing/sitting/legs crossed/etc) for more than a few minutes, say 4 or 5?..... :s And to make me keep going to the loo every 15 to try to make it more comfortable.

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So, sounds like a vaginal imbalance and a UTI are possibilities.

That given, I'd say if you can get to a clinic to go now before you're in agony. If you want to wait and feel like you can tolerate that, you could give it another day and see if both of these issues improve, then if they don't, or get worse, head on in.

FYI, this probably has less to do with the where than the how. If you kept on when you were feeling pain, didn't use lube, weren't aroused enough, didn't urinate before and after, and/or your partner didn't wash her hands first, any or all of those can be reasons for UTIs or imbalances from manual sex.

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Okay. Thanks Heather.

*winces*

Can I then ask tips on how to get to the Clinic, when I'm in a bit of a sticky situation with the 'rents? (As expected, they're not too happy with the whole coming out thing- if I'd had a choice would NOT have told them- they're keeping me at home, no work or any of my other duties, and I can't bunk College, 'cause they'd get a phonecall.... :s). They've forbidden me from seeing my girlfriend outside of 10 min breaks during school.... (Still waiting on the whole housing thing btw, but that's coming up within the next 2/3 months/weeks).

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Whooboy. [Frown]

So, how did you work yesterday? Can you employ whatever you did to get that time to get to the clinic?

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I finished College early yesterday (pre-arranged early finish, and plans were arranged with them a few days before), and told my parents that I was beginning to stress with up-coming exams and needed some exercise. I asked if I could go swimming. They escorted me to the pool from College, and met me halfway on the way back. Emily met me in the changing rooms, and then took a different bus when we neared the place I was meeting my parents, so as to avoid them. No College today, so not allowed to even go to the corner shop.....

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Things are messed up and REALLY bad at home at the moment. I won't put details up here, but I will write that my advocate even tried for an emergency care placement as soon as she got wind of what was going on. 17 and that happening? :s

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I'm so sorry to hear this, Jenna. Sorry to hear getting housing away from home is taking so long, too. [Frown]

So, you know, people get UTIs and vaginal imbalances who aren't and have never been sexually active at all. I don't suppose just saying you think you have something, are in pain, and need to get to the clinic will do the trick?

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I didn't know that. I'll try asking them, and see if I can go before or after College tomorrow, cuz it'll be closed now.
Hope my Dad doesn't come in with me....

Thank you [Smile]

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It'd actually be pretty odd for a health clinic to let a Dad waltz into a genital exam, rather than asking him to wait in the waiting room.

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In the meantime, drink lots of water (not so much you feel sick, but more than usual), if you're going to bathe, avoid any bubbles or such, and in terms of the itch, sometimes a yogurt poultice can help (and won't tend to disrupt anything).

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Oh yeah... duh. Ditzy moment there! (about the dad-clinic thing).

And a yoghurt what? :s

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A poultice.

So, you take some plain yogurt and smooth it over your vulva. ideally, you then lay down and rest for an hour or so, since walking around with it is not exactly so easy. [Smile]

The coolness of it is soothing by itself, but the pro-biotics in it can also help readjust any imbalances a little bit.

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I see... I'll go try and sneak some yoghurt from the fridge! [Smile]

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Just wanted to say that I'm really sorry your parents reacted that way to your 'coming out' and I hope that they come around in time! I think you sound like a very strong and resilient person, so good on you and your girlfriend [Smile]

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