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PlanetXMars24
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I am a virgin and I have tried to have sex with my boyfriend but it hurts so bad when he tries to enter me that I have to tell him to stop. He starts me off with oral and fingers me one finger doesn't hurt but 2 starts to feel a little uncomfortable. Im not sure why it is hurting so much but I want to figure out what I can do to make it less painful.
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Heather
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Okay, those things he does before: you say they don't hurt, but do they feel really good? Are you then very turned on after those things when you start intercourse?

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PlanetXMars24
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Well I don't really feel pleasure from it.. The only thing that really gets me going is clitoral stimulation which he knows and he does that to help turn me on but it still hurts when he try's to Get inside
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Heather
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So, if you aren't feeling any pleasure from those things, either, then it sounds like you're moving too fast. Intercourse feels good to some folks on the receptive end without other activities, but good to almost no one when someone isn't already turned on and enjoying the activities that go on before it.

So, how about you slow way down and take more time exploring to find what DOES feel good (not just doesn't hurt, but actually feels very good) before moving to entry? And maybe that's about exploring without your partner, too: might be best to go back to the drawing board with your own masturbation first before you try getting sexual with someone else. That's usually what tends to work best for most people.

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