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letssea717
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Hi,
I am considering having intercourse with someone. I am not on birth control so using condoms is an absolute must. I have read "Pregnancy Scared" many times so I understand what poses a risk and what doesn't. However, I have been wondering about something I used to request of male partners in the past and I'm wondering if it's not necessary. In the past, I have asked them to wash dtheir hands before putting a condom on. This is just for my peace of mind just to make sure they touch the condom with not just clean hands, but hands that don't have any ejaculate or pre-cum on them, in the event that they were touching themselves beforehand. Is this precaution necessary? Also, another strategy I have is to not get completely naked until we're both ready for intercourse, so that there's no risk or possibility of genital to genital contact before we get started. Does this seem like the best way to approach this given my lack of birth control (except condoms of course)? Any other tips or articles on how to be as safe as possible while fooling around would be great if you have them.
Thank you in advance for answering my questions!
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Hey letssea717: Welcome to Scarleteen!

Having partners wash hands before putting condoms on is generally a good idea. What I would say per staying in clothing until ready for intercourse would be to make sure you're also spending enough time with other types of sex - per being ready and relaxed fully for intercourse. IE knowing even if you're not ready for intercourse there's nothing wrong with having a condom on for other types of stimulation (and indeed is always a good idea).

Also, tossing an article your way: Safe, Sound & Sexy: A Safer Sex How-To

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But, in a hypothetical situation where the guy doesn't wash his hands: if he did touch his penis beforehand and then he touched the condom to put it on, does that pose any kind of pregnancy risk?

I also ask guys to wash their hands AFTER taking the condom off, in the event that semen got on their hands during removal, but this might be unnecessary too because only direct genital-to-genital contact poses a pregnancy risk, not semen/precum-hand-genital contact, right????

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Everyone should really just wash their hands before touching each others genitals. It's not so much a pregnancy risk, but an infection risk. You don't want to rub the bacteria you have on your hands all over someone's genitals and then give them a UTI, for example.

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Right. But does it pose ANY pregnancy risk?
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No, unless they had a glob of fresh ejaculate on their hands and then put it on you it does not pose a pregnancy risk.

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Thank you so much for the information! I feel like I can make some very sound decisions now in relation to this. Thank you!
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And just to summarize:

A guy touches his penis, which has precum on it, then rolls a condom on. This does NOT pose a pregnancy risk.

HOWEVER, if a guy starts to roll a condom on the wrong way (let's just assume his penis has precum on it) and then rolls it on the right way, this DOES pose a pregnancy risk. Why? Is it because the precum touched the condom first (rather than his hand, like in the first scenario)?

Thank you.

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