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evilazula
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Okay Guys, I've got a bit of a hairy dilemma. The thing is, I have a lot of pubic hair. It's not the front that's the problem though..... I have a bit of a hairy bum. The pubic hair goes all the way around and past my vagina, around my anus, and even a bit farther than that. There's a fair bit of it too. Also there is just a fine bit of hair on the cheeks, but it's not prominent. It is so embarrassing. I mean I understand I shouldn't be so bothered as I'm not going to have people checking it out, but I'm scared that when i have sex the guy might see it and run a mile. So my question is, is it normal to have so much? And if not what could be wrong with me and what can I do to remove it? Woooow this was weird to write, please don't make fun of me > . < btw if it helps I'm Indian and I have dark hair... Almost everywhere... [Frown]

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Heather
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No one ever gets made fun of for anything here, I promise.

It's hard to answer a question like this, because people's ideas of what a "lot" of hair or a "little" hair are when it comes to genitals often aren't based on a good idea of how big a range there is in terms of the hair on people's bodies. So, we're not going to be able to tell you if it's normal for you to have what you think is "so much" hair, because a) we can't know what "so much" is, and b) the question will always be "compared to what?"

People with thicker, darker hair on their heads, though, will often have thicker and darker hair on their bodies. That's not at all unusual. And people do tend to have some degree of pubic hair around their bottoms and between their butt cheeks.

But what you can do, if you're concerned, is check in with a sexual healthcare provider. If this is about something other than a normal variation, you will want to know because that could suggest a hormone imbalance which may be impacting other parts of your health.

Can I ask, though, why you feel embarrassed? Do you have the idea you have way more hair there than most people? If so, where are you getting that idea from?

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evilazula
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To be honest, I'm not quite sure. I watch a fair bit of porn, and as a girl it's really odd to see these hairless girls just doing their thing. Of course I know they get paid to be waxed and whatnot, but still... Also, I'd never heard of it happening to anyone else... I'm quite close with my friends but the subject had never come up (and I'm not about to introduce it haha) and no one ever talks about it,really. Its a really private thing of course, so woman aren't going to discuss it freely. Would be nice to see I'm not the only one out there.

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Onionpie
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Hey, evilzula. You're right that porn stars are paid for their work and oftentimes for the more mainstream porn, grooming their pubic hair a certain way is required of them. So porn, especially the more mainstream/mass produced stuff, is not a good place to go to to see realistic portrayals of the variety of women's bodies. If you just type your question into the search bar of these forums you will see that this question comes up from a lot of young women; you're definitely not alone [Smile]
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heero222
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As a guy I can assure you it is very very unlikely that a guy is going to run just because you are hairy down there. Now if you ask him to give you oral and you haven't shaved the area around your vagina he would probably be reluctant to do so but the hair on your bum isn't going to matter either way to him.
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KittenGoddess
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Let's be careful generalizing about reactions here. Plenty of folks of any gender don't care a bit about pubic hair when it comes to oral sex or any other type of sexual activity. Hair removal is not required for anyone unless they wish todo so for themselves.

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heero222
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I certainly didn't intend to make a generalization. I meant to put "possibly" not "probably" in the second sentence. Also I NEVER said anything about hair removal being required those are your words not mine. She's certainly free to make any choice she wants about her pubic hair. Yes, you're right plenty of folks don't mind pubic hair when giving oral but implicit in that statement is the flipside that plenty of folks do mind. Unless your going to make a generalization and claim that no one cares.
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evilazula
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Thanks a lot for answering everyone. It made me feel a whole lot better.

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