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Cameron Joel
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I'm sixteen and have been sexually active since I was about 15 and a half. I've never had any symptoms of an STI. We used condoms and the only person my partner had had sex with before was a virgin, so I see no possible way for an STI to get into the picture. My parents know all of this, and my mom says I need to see a gynecologist, because apparently that's just what you do when you're having sex.

The trouble is, I'm a transguy (ftm) and even though I don't have bottom dysphoria, I REALLY don't want to have anyone poking around down there. Are gynecological checkups really necessary for anyone who has had sex? Can I get out of it?

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Your mom is right: regular reproductive health care once you are sexually active is important. Even if your STI risk is pretty low, it's still a good idea to get into the habit.

Plenty of people feel iffy about going to see a doctor for plenty of reasons, so you can definitely have a conversation with the doctor or nurse, first, and let them know that you feel pretty uncomfortable and why. A good doctor will take the time to explain to you what they are doing, and will listen if you ask them to stop what they're doing.

Depending on where you're located, there may also be the option of finding specifically trans-friendly health care. I personally don't know where to start looking, but we have staff who do, so I'm going to leave a note for them and ask them to get back to you, okay?

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Hi there, Cameron, welcome to the boards! [Smile]

I can look into some trans-friendly gynecologists for you, if you'd like me to - are you willing to share your zip code? If you have insurance, do you know what it will cover? If you don't, what's your price range?

The advantage of having a trans-friendly gyn is that they're well practised in meeting the needs/concerns of transpeople, and I can have a look around to get you information as to what they consider "meeting the needs of transpeople" means. Hopefully that's something that goes some way to making this more comfortable for you. [Smile]

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Cameron Joel
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I actually live quite near NYC, so I'm good. I go to the Callen-Lorde Community Health Center for therapy, so I'll start there. I would be really surprised if they didn't have a gyn who can work with trans youth. If that is somehow the case, they should be able to direct my search elsewhere.

Thanks for your help! [Smile]

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Hey Cameron, sorry to go off-topic, but I've referred people to Callen-Lorde before, and I'm wondering if you could just let me know if that's been a good fit for you?

Or, even better, might you be willing to set up a page for them here -- -- if it has been great for you? Cheers!

And yes, I agree, they should be able to give you a good referral. If it turns out they can't, just give a shout and we'll help you find someone.

Also, you might find this page helpful:

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