I am going to be honest Ė Iím getting annoyed >=( The thing that is annoying is the way people talk about marstbachion. Itís like it is a really bad thing and as far as I can work out itís not. People on this site are all cool about it but I find at school everybody treats it like it is some kind of disease that you should try and get rid of and Iím getting sick of it! It also annoys me that itís apparently ok for men to marstbate but not girls?!? Iím a girl and I do but I would never say anything about it where as for guys it is completely ok? This is really really REALLY unfair. I swear now girls are MENT to be treated just as guys are but there is still separation with these kinds of things. I just wondered if any one agrees or disagrees with me because it is like something I think about allot now and itís not something that I talk to my friends about....
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You know, as much as it sucks -- and I know that it does -- a lot of people don't talk about sex and sexuality with much maturity, and that's always a particular issue among younger people who are still transitioning from childhood to adulthood and often just don't have the maturity yet to handle those discussions well. If they're folks who also didn't have parents or others talk about sexuality in a mature, healthy way growing up, that's all the more challenging.
So, yes, a lot of young people (and plenty of older ones) have a hard time talking about masturbation with maturity. As well, because culturally, female sexuality is still very unaccepted when it is not about or for men, those attitudes can also wind up in the mix.
The good news is that the way things are in junior high or high school around all of this are usually NOT how they will always be: people around you, at least some of them, anyway, will grow up more and be better able to talk about and treat masturbation and other sexual issues.
The bad news, of course, is that you can't time-travel.
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