Many people with vaginas do not get pleasure from intercourse alone. There just aren't very many nerve endings in the vagina beyond the opening. You have been sexually active for a fairly short period of time and it often takes us quite awhile to figure out just what our bodies like and don't like.
From some of your other posts it sounds like sex hasn't been all that enjoyable for you so far. It is totally OK to take a step back from sex for awhile and spend some time on your own figuring out what your body likes and how you like to be touched. Knowing what feels good is one of the biggest keys to having really good sex.
The clitoris is the only organ anywhere on the body that is designed JUST for sexual pleasure, so it's totally understandable that you'd get sexual pleasure from it. The thing about masturbation is that we are totally comfortable with our own bodies, so it is easier to relax and feel safe and comfy. With partners you are adding another person in who has expectations and desires and may make you worry that you aren't doing everything right. That can pretty easily make you feel uncomfortable and not as relaxed as you'd like to be, which can make orgasming a lot harder. Also, if you are expecting to orgasm then you can focus so much on the orgasm that you forget that sex feels good. Enjoying every part of having sex, without having expectations of orgasm or anything else can be really useful.
Does any of that help?
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it kinda dose but then again it kinda dosent. ive read around on this website alot trying to figure things out. i do know that i get extream pleasure from the clit. and me and my bf have played around w this idea....where he has fingered me (many times atculy now) and it has manly been the clit. and it has felt really nice....but everytime he went to go try and find the g-spot, eather he couldnt find it or he did and i just didnt get any pleasure from it or he might not of been doing it right. i have felt around on myself to see what feels good to me so i can know what pleases me, i hav also tryed to find my g-spot to see if i got anything from it and wasnt succesful. also yes i did have a painful exsperonce w my frist time of intorcourse. but after a little bit of him trying to lossn me up it got better and didnt feel painful anymore, just kinda like he was putting more than 2 fingers in and out me again and kinda deeper.
i was just kinda hopeing that there might b a way that i could enjoy intorcourse if i didnt get it from the g-spot and only the clit.
also some told me or i read some where (not on this website i dont think) that u could do intorcorse while he is playing w the clit. can u atculy do this? or is that just someting that someone said??
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