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sabsabsi
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Me and my boyfriend last night did not have any condoms but were quite turned on, so we decided to dry hump, which then turned into dry humping naked. Eventually I was sitting just above his penis and was rubbing it with my vagina (so basicaly have outside of body sex) he came on my vagina and we carried on rubbing for quite a while after and I could feel a pool of cum around and below my vagina which obviously I was rubbing myslef in frm rubbing his penis, are there any cnsequences to this? Ie. stds or pregnancy?
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Leabug
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This presents a risk of both STIs and pregnancy. If you do not wish to become pregnant, you can obtain EC within 120 hours of the incident to reduce your chances. It also would be a good idea to schedule yourself for an STI exam if you and your partner have not both been tested.

In the future, do keep in mind that ANY unprotected direct genital contact presents both an STI and pregnancy risk.

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quote:
Originally posted by sabsabsi:
Me and my boyfriend last night did not have any condoms but were quite turned on, so we decided to dry hump, which then turned into dry humping naked. Eventually I was sitting just above his penis and was rubbing it with my vagina (so basicaly have outside of body sex) he came on my vagina and we carried on rubbing for quite a while after and I could feel a pool of cum around and below my vagina which obviously I was rubbing myslef in frm rubbing his penis, are there any cnsequences to this? Ie. stds or pregnancy?

I'm not as experienced as others in this forum, but I would have to say that any contact with body fluids during an form of sex presents the possibility of stds, etc. This is why condoms are being promoted constantly.

Now about this dry humping, you mention that eventually you ended up dry humping naked. Does this mean that it is possible to be sexually aroused by dry humping with your clothes on?

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Leabug
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Yes, there are many people who do enjoy having dry sex fully clothed.

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quote:
Originally posted by Leabug:
Yes, there are many people who do enjoy having dry sex fully clothed.

This would mean that the clothing being worn by each person is extremely fine or light. We can't be talking about jeans and that kind of thing, are we?

This is the foreplay to the real deal, dirty dancing, or what?

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Lots of people have dry sex FULLY clothed, yes. And I do mean jeans and such. You may not find that satisfying, but there are plenty of people who do, so please do not make the assumption that it must only be foreplay- for many, it's the main event.

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And because it hasn't been mentioned yet, not all STDs require body fluids for transmission. Herpes and HPV (the virus that causes warts and cancers) only need skin to skin friction -- the kind you'd get if you were dry humping with no pants on.

And yes, dry humping with pants on can be darn good if you've got very nicely-textured underwear and a strategically located seam. say no more, say no more.

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As far as I know, pregnancy wouldn't occur without penetration. But that doesn't mean it couldn't. The fact that he came on your vagina and you rubbed yourself against his wet penis may result in pregnancy. STIs are also possible. That's why it's safer to use condoms when you dry hump naked.
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Marcs.lover

Just to clear something up for you. Pregnancy can occur (and for that matter does occur) without penetration. There's different risk levels involved with different types of sex. There’s a great article on the main site that’s really helpful in Pregnancy Risk Assessment. It also tells you when you've had STI risks.

[ 03-07-2008, 11:00 AM: Message edited by: Stephanie_1 ]

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i dont know about the other case, but a couple of months back me and my boyfriend were dry humping, we had our underwears on. after a couple of minutes, i had a couple of orgasms and he had one too. so his underwear got quite wet with his cum and my panty was also wet with my own fluids. we continued to do it for another 5 or 10 minutes. i never bothered about it and thought it would be safe! was i at the risk of pregnancy then?

also, if i have his fluids on my belly or something, but making sure it doesnt get close to the "area", is there a risk??
oh ya, we do get tested for STI's every 6 months so no risk about that.

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Sperm isn't strong enough to make it through two layers of clothing. If you've had a normal period since this, you're not pregnant.

If there is no ejaculate near your genital area (or direct genital to genital contact), there is no risk.

Also, good on you for getting tested so regularly! [Smile]

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ok, i am asking this coz if we end up doing it again should i take precautions? last time his underwear got very wet and my panty also got realywet. and we did it for more than 10 mins untill he ejaculated again.
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If two people are nude and have their genitals rubbing directly on one another, it's not dry sex anymore, because fluids will be shared.

So, if you only have very, very thing garments on, then it's safest for your boyfriend to put on a condom for this.

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quote:
Originally posted by Leabug:
Yes, there are many people who do enjoy having dry sex fully clothed.

How in the hell do you have dry sex with your clothes on? WTF

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Heather
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"Dry sex" means when two clothed people are rubbing their genitals together. The "dry" part of it means no fluid exchange: if two people are nude and grinding genitals together, fluids get exchanged.

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I know what you mean. Me and my boyfriend want to try this! he will be wearing a condom but i think it will be fun. Does it hurt more? or is it better with a thong on and him in boxers?
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Honestly, the only person that can really answer what feels better for him is him. Everyone's different so we all like different things. Have you seen this yet? Be a Blabbermouth! The Whys, Whats and Hows of Talking About Sex With a Partner

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Yes Pregnancy can happen without you having any penetration, and you 'get some of his fluid on your vagina' This happened to me at 15 and my girlfriend at 14, when we were in sophmores in high school, and she did get pregnate.... so the rule is if you girls get his fluid on you, the possiblities are great.. so have protection of some type of birth control...yourself or common type....sorry to say the girls are the ones that are responsible... that is my nickels worth at this time.
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One partner is no more responsible that any other partner in regards to safer sex, just like one partner is no more responsible than any other partner for ANY aspect of a healthy relationship.

Partners can make decisions about who will have the safer sex supplies, but all involved parties are equally responsible for communicating fully about what they are looking for in a relationship, and if that does not include pregnancy (assuming a heterosexual pairing here) then that has to be a decision made with both partners, not the assumed responsibility of the woman.

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Clarification;
I wish to say that the females in the relationship are more likely to know about their bodies then the males’ are to know about them, yes I think in is both that need to be responsible for a un-wanted pregnancy, but there are more ways with a female to be on and use birth control then hearing “I Hate the feel of condoms” from both parties, and then not have any protection in use. We know that a female period is very unpredictable, just one day longer or shorter, and ‘pop’ … the words “I am now pregnate” with all the tears and additional problems of both families, schooling and one’s guilt.
I hope this makes it as ‘clear as mud’ now.
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How predictable or unpredicatble periods are, and how long or short they last really isn't the issue when it comes to whether or not someone becomes pregnant.

What is is a) if folks are engaging in sexual activities that can cause pregnancy and b) if they are or are not using reliable methods of contraception for those activities.

And those are things ALL partners can know and share responsibility for, which I'd say is even more important since the person who can or does become pregnant will always bear the greater burdens of pregnancy, so the least that person's partner can do is make sure they're stepping up as much as they can with sharing the responsibilities they can. Other methods of birth control have their own side effects and things people don't like about them, too, not just condoms.

And I'd say that if someone's partner is whinging about sharing contraceptive responsibilities, the better move is to not be sexual with that partner, rather than figuring she's got to take extra responsibility of a partner who refuses to share it.

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