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LiiviinLaviidalocaaa
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Im a virgin and not ready to have sex because I'm afraid of pregnnacy but I want to be intimate with my boyfriend who wants sex very bad but is gonna wait, complain but wait, he wants to finger me, I want to try it, but im afraid, he has big fingers, and when I put my fingers in there i don't know where to go and I'm afraid i'm going to hit my hymn, fingering is suppossed to be very enjoyable but I'm not really feeling anything, please help me, btw i put only my fingernail amount in, plase help
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Heather
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If someone is complaining about needing to wait on a partner, my advice would be to really think some more on if this is someone who is sound for any kind of sexual partnership. Nagging or complaining are kinds of sexual coercion (pressuring), and just really aren't okay. A person with the maturity to be a good sexual partner doesn't do that. So, I would advise evaluating this some more, okay?

That said, "fingering" or manual sex for women, doesn't just mean someone's fingers going inside the vagina. It means sexual stimulation with hands and fingers of the whole vulva or any part. Often, women don't find that JUST fingers inside the vagina feels that great for them, in the same way few women find intercourse alone does. So, things like spending lots of time with hands and fingers on the external clitoris, the inner and outer labia, the mons: these are all parts of manual sex, too.

As well, the hymen is not deep inside the vagina, it's right at the opening.

It sounds like you also need some extra education on a few things here, so here are some links for you to get started with:
• http://www.scarleteen.com/article/body/my_corona_the_anatomy_formerly_known_as_the_hymen_the_myths_that_surround_it (on the hymen)
• http://www.scarleteen.com/article/advice/when_im_fingering_her_she_seems_completely_unaffected_whats_the_deal
• http://www.scarleteen.com/article/advice/i_didnt_feel_a_thing_with_fingering_is_there_something_wrong_with_me

[ 05-17-2010, 07:56 AM: Message edited by: Heather ]

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