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abcde
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Firstly, I think I should get all the important details down...
I am a 19 year old and I have been having intercourse with my boyfriend, for almost 9 months now.

We both cater to each others needs/wants in the bedroom.

But, a few times will having intercourse it starts to burn slightly. I think the problem is I dry up and that causes friction. Friction causes a lot of discomfort and I just don't feel like continuing. Tonight, my boyfriend tried oral sex to lubricate me but it didn't help much.
What is causing this? At my age shouldn't I have no problems when it comes to the 'natural lubricant'? I am very concerned.

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Heather
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Throughout most of history, many people have used lubricants with intercourse, at all ages. There's no age when lubricant is magically never needed. So, if you're not using it and experiencing discomfort, that's certainly something to try and may well be what's needed here. It sure sounds like it is.

But too, persistent burning is something to also investigate, especially if either of you aren't current with sexual healthcare/sexually transmitted infection tests. So, can you also get in to see a gynecologist or sexual health clinic, as well as using lubricant?

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abcde
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But, we've only been sexually active with each other and no one else. So, what chance of a STI is there?
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If that is the case, you are less likely to have an STI. But there is still the possiblity of other infections such as yeast infections and bacterial vaginosis which could cause this irritation. It's always a good idea to get tested, and also to get a pap smear done, if you have not had one before.

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abcde
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Thank you for your help. [Smile]

Also, how exactly can we use lubricants? Is it safe it insert some into the vagina? I read somewhere that if u put a drop of lubricant in the condom before and then put it on, it heightens pleasure. Is that true?

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Lubricants designed for use with sex can be used anywhere genitally. You don't need to try and insert them into the vagina, you can either just take a glop of it and put it on your vulva (the external part of your genitals, the vagina is inside the body) or on the condom, whichever you like. Then you just have the sex you're having, and add more as/if needed.

And yes, some male-condom wearers also find a couple of drops of lube inside the condom before putting it on make condoms feel better for them.

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I love you guys! You all guys must be so proud of yourselves.

Thanks!

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*all you guys must...
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