I don't know if this is where I should post this, but here goes: I have pleasured my partner orally and have gagged on him twice. I eventually want to learn to control my gag reflex better, but I was wondering how it felt for him to have me gag on him. Does it feel really bad? I am curious to know!
Posts: 13 | From: Canada | Registered: Jan 2010
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firstly if you dont feel comfortable doing anything dont do it.
You can participate in oral sex without allowing it too deep into your mouth , thus preventing gagging. It is normal to gag when anything is inserted too deeply into your throat/mouth. SO if you dont want this to happen again try NOT putting it that deep in. It will still feel pleasurable , try using your tongue more. Let your partner know if you feel uncomfortable about anything.
However if you do want to train to insert it more deeply, it is possible, however you have to be relaxed and take things slow.
TO answer how it feels, that part im not sure about. Why dont you ask him? It seems like you two should talk and communicate more about your sexual relationship.
Posts: 92 | From: las vegas | Registered: Feb 2010
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I think this is just one of those things where you have to learn your limits and what you're comfortable with. Over time, you will figure out how much is too much and what is physically comfortable for you to do (gagging is not so much in the "comfy" department).
If you're concerned about how this feels your partner, by all means, ask him! With any sexual or intimate act, talking is a really a big deal, about what both parties are feeling, wanting, and comfortable with doing. My guess would be it doesn't "feel really bad" for him, but if he knew you were gagging he might be concerned for how that's feeling for YOU. Letting him know what's going on and asking him about this is your best bet for clearing up your questions.
Here's a pretty helpful link from the main site, take a look with your partner sometime
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