The other night a guy and I for the first time got intimate, when we are in bed cuddling, both only with our jeans on, i thought he was jacking off next to me while we were spooning. I could feel that he was very hard all night and I hadn't done anything to please him. How should i take this? Should I help him out next time?
Posts: 1 | From: Muskoka | Registered: Dec 2009
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It doesn't take all that much to make a guy hard if he's shirtless in bed with a shirtless girl who he likes. You don't have to do anything specific"to please him" for him to be turned on.
Usually if you are spooning (holding each other up against each other) in my experience there isn't really enough room between people for a guy to jack himself off. If you were a bit separated and you could hear soft "fap fap fap" noises and he was jerking around a little bit then I guess he was most likely jacking off, but if you could just feel him hard against your back, he was probably just turned on by being close and intimate with you.
If he WAS jacking off while in bed with you--without mentioning it--that's pretty rude in my opinion, and depending on how creeped out you were it could be something very bad for him to do without talking about it, but I'd have to know more about the situation to discuss that.
And of course you don't have to "help him out" if you don't want to, but I guess if it's something you'd be interested in doing then go for it if you're being safe and talking about it. I know that when I first started getting intimate with my boyfriend I was super excited to "help him out." But as always I would suggest talking about every new stage of intimacy you try. It makes everything more pleasurable when you can talk about it and figure out exactly what the other person likes and is comfortable with.
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