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AsshBee
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Ok, ever since i lost my v-card in the 8th grade..I've been called a nympho-maniac.

I know i've had sex over 5 times...i lost count, but everytime i just can't stop i feel like i have a goal to reach when i'm in a relationship.
And i feel like sex might take over my whole life, i don't want my partners to feel like i'm using him/her.
I give/get oral sex and anal for both opposing sexes...not vaginal. After i lost my virginity i never had sex vaginally again.
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What is this craving i have for sex all of a sudden? Is it a stage everyone goes thru? Or Am i really losing my mind?

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Heather
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Nymphomania is a really antiquated term, and it was biased from the start: it was basically assigned, historically, even to women who just enjoyed sex (since the cultural ideal was that women did not, but had sex with men as their duty).

It has no use, that term, at all, because it doesn't mean anything clear. But having sex five times is actually a very infrequent number of times to have had sex for anyone, so concerns that this is a LOT of sex are unfounded.

But you are expressing something that sounds like a real concern: you seem to be saying you feel like you don't have control over yourself, and are choosing to have sex as some kind of goal, which is not really healthy. You also express worries it might "take over your life." I also don't know if when you're engaging in oral sex with partners if you are using latex barriers: if not, that's a physical health concern, especially with new/casual partnerships.

It's normal for human beings to feel sexual desire and a drive for sex, and that is something that develops and becomes stronger during pubertu. However, that can be satisfied with or without (through masturbation) partners, and desire all by itself doesn't mean we have no control of those feelings, nor that we have to have sex for them to subside at a given time.

I'm happy to talk to you about your concerns, and to help you work out what is and isn't healthy for you sexually, and to refine your own clarity on what you want and feel is best for you.

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So basically this is normal?
I use protection everytime. And even after sex I'm satisfied but i'm still wet for the next hour or so.
That's normal also?

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Heather
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Bodies get moist when it comes to sex: they don't magically gush out fluids then get instantly dry, like a countertop we've wiped. As well, it's normal for the vulva at certain times of the fertility cycle to be wetter or drier and that has nothing to do with sex at all.

When you ask if "this" is normal, I'm not sure what "this" is. If you mean feelings of sexual desire and urgency? Yes, that's normal. But feeling like you HAVE to have partnered sex all the time when you have them, or like you can't control your sexual choices is not something we'd call normal and is not usually so healthy.

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I meant "this" as in My sexual desire, you answered my question.

Thanks!

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Yes, those feelings of desire and normal and there's nothing unhealthy about them.

It's this that is NOT healthy.

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but everytime i just can't stop i feel like i have a goal to reach when i'm in a relationship.
And i feel like sex might take over my whole life

To be clear -- and I'm sorry if this comes off as patronizing, I just worry we might be missing each other in the muddle -- you understand that having feelings of desire does not mean it's always best to seek to satiate them every time with other people, right? Especially if our motives aren't good, or those people or situations aren't healthy or emotionally safe?

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AsshBee
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I understand what you mean...
U mean its ok to satisfy sexual needs buh not 24/7 with different ppl;; Sorta like being sleezy?

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