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sad_eyes_lie
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so i can easily enjoy being fingered from someone else. and fingering another girl is not a problem for me.(yes i am bisexual) but when i try to for myself i cant really seems to get any pleasure. its not that i don't like my body or anything like that. so why do i have such a problem with this?
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Heather
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Just to be clear, since so many people use that term differently, are we talking about you rubbing various parts of your vulva with your own hands, like your clitoris, or about you trying to masturbate inserting fingers into your vagina?

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both. i have a problem with getting any pleasure. but like i said before its not that i don't like my body or anything like that. so i'm really confuse why i have this problem.
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Heather
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Without getting too personal, can I ask how many different things you've tried?

For instance, while your partners so far may be responsive to the way you touch them, and you might be to how a partner touches you, with your own masturbation you may find you like something entirely different. For example, some women masturbate by clamping their legs together tightly in a rhythmic way, some others by using a vibrator, others still by "humping" a pillow or something else.

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i have tried those things. i do alright with a vibrator, but i would rather figure out a way to without.
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Can I ask why?

I do because however we get off really is however we get off, and a lot of people simply have some things that do and some things that don't work for them, either for the whole of their lives or at given times in their lives.

And there's nothing "better" about needing or wanting to use a vibrator than there is not, save, I suppose, saving a tiny bit of cash on batteries or the electric bill. [Smile]

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yeah. but with my age being about a year shy of 18 i cant just buy one. and i cant go to anyone really to buy me one.
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Actually, that's not necessarily so.

The most classic kind of vibrators -- like the Hitachi Wand -- are often sold in general stores as "back massagers." In fact, you may have other vibe options in places like Target stores. You can buy these things, you just can't go into sex toy shops, or purchase toys marked expressly AS toys.

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