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the_friendly
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I was fingered by my ex-boyfriend with one finger several many times but it has been a year since my last encounter and I haven't had sex till date, I wanted to know whether I would feel the same amount of pain as all the people do during first sex or my vagina is already opened up.Please advice.

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Heather
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The vagina doesn't open permanently in the way you're thinking: when women become sexually excited, it loosens, then opens enough based on whatever, if anything, is inside of it.

If you had a lot of pain with fingering, it most likely had to do with a) you not being aroused enough and b) what your partner was doing and how. For instance, if they were just pushing fingers inside without other kinds of stimulation for you -- such as with your clitoris, and/or not using lube and not paying attention to your body and what you were saying did or didn't feel good, that can typically cause discomfort.

Here are a couple links on pain with vaginal entry and entry in general for you:
• From OW! to WOW! Demystifying Painful Intercourse
• Let's Get Metaphysical: The Etiquette of Entry

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Caustic_Chaos
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Also, the width of one finger is not the same as the width of a penis. The penis is larger around.

If you had pain with one finger you most likely will have pain with a penis. But as Heather said, being aroused has a lot to do with it to make it feel better.

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Heather
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Actually, Caustic, I'm not totally on board with that.

Plenty of people who aren't practiced when it comes to their fingers and vulvas, for instance, will be pretty pokey with the fingers in a way they might not be with a penis. As well, since penises are more sensitive than fingers, a partner might be gentler that way since his sensitivity will be an issue, too.

The long and the short of that is that there are just so many variables, and those body parts differ by more than size that I don't think that's sage to suggest.

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