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justine doe
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is it normal for a guy to stop liking the feeling of masturbating after fooling around (like a week after)?
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bluejumprope
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Can you say more about what you mean by not liking the feeling of masturbation?

For instance, are you talking more about a physical sensation, an emotional feeling, or some combination?

It's normal for what we like to change. People's masturbation practices typically change over a lifetime, and also just day to day--what sensations we prefer, libido will fluctuate, etc.

[ 07-16-2009, 06:52 PM: Message edited by: bluejumprope ]

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bluejumprope
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One other thing I want to add:

Anything in our lives can effect how we experience sexual activity (solo or partnered).

So, sure, fooling around with someone can effect how we feel about our bodies, and how we experience masturbation. But so can a fight with a parent, a great walk in a park, watching a depressing movie, a change in diet, or anything else. It can also just be random. Any of that is totally normal.

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justine doe
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i think he meant the physical sensation
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I'm a bit perplexed: are you asking for someone else?

If so, can you give us a bit more context?

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justine doe
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no, he told me this and i was just wondering if it was something i did

or if he feels guilty about fooling around

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Well, only he can tell you if this is about guilt, and you can certainly ask him that.

But like bluejumprope explained, it's also normal for us to find changes in how masturbation or any partnersex activity feels to us -- emotionally, intellectually or physically -- throughout our lives.

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