I went to the gynecologist yesterday because I wanted to start using tampons for sports. I've never been able to use them before. My gynecologist checked my vagina and said that my hymen was gone. Then she put in a tampon for me. It pinched a little, but wasn't excruciatingly painful.
Five hours later I tried to take it out, but I couldn't. It felt like knives cutting at my vaginal walls. I tried everything I could think of, including using lube, soaking in a tub of hot water, waiting until it collected more blood, a standing position, a squatting position, a lying down position. Eventually my mother called the on-call doctor at the gynecologist office but she could not help us.
In the end, my mother ended up having to take it out for me by digging it out of my vagina with her fingers. By that time the tampon had been in 9 hours. It was one of the most painful things I've experienced.
Is this a normal first time use experience? My mother said she never had this problem and my friends say the pain will go away. I'm afraid to try again! What can I do differently next time, or do I just have to adjust?
It's still kind of painful down there. I'm assuming it just needs time to heal.
It's unclear from your post, but you should be using the smallest tampon that will collect the amount of fluid that's coming out. Even experienced tampon wearers can have trouble getting some of those huge ones out from time to time (I'm at least speaking for myself). If the one you had in was not a small one, that could account for some of the difficulty.
For now, I'd say wait until your next period to try anything, given that you're still in pain. If the pain doesn't go away in another day, I'd call the doctor again.
I'd definitely say, though, that the pain you're experiencing is not normal. Some irritation and difficulty with first tampon use is normal, but what you're describing goes way beyond that. But, I'd bet that a significant part of the problem was caused by tension and stress. The longer you went not being able to get it out, the tenser you got, which would make your vagina tighten, which would make it more difficult to get it out... and you can see how that develops into a cycle. The key to removing a tampon may just be to relax and breathe. You might also want to try tampons made with unbleached cotton, because irritation from chemicals could have been making the problem worse.
Ultimately, you might to try something other than tampons. The DivaCup and other cups are a good alternative to tampons. One perk about the Diva Cup is that it's reusable, so you're not generating waste. It's also made out of silicone, which, unlike tampons made out of bleached cotton, won't irritate your body at all. You can also leave it in for 12 hours. I've used it during all sorts of physical activities--it's actually the only thing I use at all these days. There is a learning curve in terms of inserting it so that it doesn't leak, but it's definitely doable with practice (it took me two cycles to get really good at it). They don't work for everyone, but they are a really good (and eco friendly) alternative.
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I did use the 'lite' size of tampons, which my gynecologist did suggest to me as a new user.
I'd be interested in using an eco-friendly alternative. When I use pads, I use the re-usable ones from Lunapads. (I love them!) However, I'm definitely not used to inserting stuff into my vagina so it could be difficult to use the DivaCup. Luckily it's summer, so I won't be pressured to use the supplies in the constraints of school.
Thank you for your suggestions and your help!
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