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Lulz
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I'm 20 years old and I've never been aroused and I've ,of course, never had an orgasm. I've never been abused, no drugs or drinking and I'm not on any meds. And it's not like I'm not a sexual person. Believe me, that's not the problem! I've just never been physically horny and I've never felt anything when doing anything sexual. Am I "broken"? Is this something I still have a chance of growing into (I -just- turned 20 in Nov.), or should I seek help? PLEASE help. This is so frustrating to me. I just want to be normal.
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cool87
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I hear that this might be frustrating to you. You are for sure not alone in this, though. [Smile] Let me ask you a few questions okay ?

How is your libido, do you have any desire for sex ? Do you feel any sexual desire at times where you choose to engage in something sexual, be it masturbation or partenered sex ?

Does the inahbility to have an orgasm and experienced pleasure applies only to partnered sex or to masturbation also : have you ever been able to orgasm or get pleasure out of masturbation ?

[ 01-03-2009, 11:31 AM: Message edited by: cool87 ]

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Lulz
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Hm. I'm not sure how to answer the questions without running in circles...I want sex, very much so, but it's not a physical want? I guess I could say it's like a mental thing. I'll think "I so want to do my boyfriend", but my body's like "Yeah, whatever." I've tried masturbating, phone sex, and have actually have partnered sex before, but didn't feel anything from it. It's pretty much just going through the motions. I'm very attracted to my boyfriend, but my arousal doesn't go past anything emotional, even in person.

EDIT:"Does the inahbility to have an orgasm and experienced pleasure applies only to partnered sex or to masturbation also : have you ever been able to orgasm or get pleasure out of masturbation ?"
It happens to both. I've never been able to orgasm or even get pleasure from masturbation.

[ 01-03-2009, 11:49 AM: Message edited by: Lulz ]

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