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Oh gosh I feel really stupid asking this question, but I really want an ansewer. Anyhow, I have been trying masterbation lately, and I've done a couple of things. I've used objects and even my own fingers. I don't ever feel this "pleasure" that people talk about. Alls I feel is just pain! Is there something wrong with me?

Alls I know is that my doctor says that my vagina is closed more than it should be, and he needs to cut it open. Could that have anything to do with it? Am I masterbating wrong? Whats going on!?!

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perhaps your putting to much pressure on it while your doing it, try just stimulating the clitoris and then it should start to feel gd you dont need a lot of pressure


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Are you talking about vaginal insertion here ? If so, you know, most people don't find vaginal insertion that pleasurable. The vagina doesn't have much nerve endings compared to other parts of the female body such as the clitoris. So it's not that uncommon for vaginal insertion to not feel pleasurable for some women. Also, what feels good for a given person might not necessarily also feel good for YOU. The key is to experiment to find what feels best for YOU.

BUT although vaginal insertion doesn't feel that good to you, it shouldn't hurt. There might be a lot of possible reasons for that pain. Are you using enough lube when masturbating ? Are you really aroused before attempting vaginal insertion, be it with fingers or toys ? Do you want to have vaginal insertion in the first place ? Are you having any worries whasoever during it (are you tensed, it can happen especially when it's something new) ? Those are all things to ruled out.

Also, may I ask where you feel the pain ? Is it specifically at the entrance of your vagina or elsewhere ?

I'm not too sure here as to what your condition really is (is it about you having a resilient hymen or is it about other things ?) so I can't be much help in telling you whether or not this might have something to do with the pain you experience. So this might be a great question to ask your gyn about.

(Also, just a safe-sex reminder in case you didn't know already, it's important to make sure your fingers are clean and well-cut (a better thing is to wear gloves) before you have vaginal insertion with fingers in order to avoid getting an infection or abrasion to your vaginal lining. Also, for the same reason it's also important too to make sure, when using a toy, that it is clean or if you can't wash it, to cover it with a condom. Also, if it's not a sex toy it's important to make sure the object you're using does not have sharp edges that could lead to injuries.)

[ 10-28-2007, 03:14 PM: Message edited by: cool87 ]

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have a look at some of the websites online for female masturbation. loads of great tips, im sure one will feel good for you.
definately pay some attention to the clitoris.

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