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Maxwell 1
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Hi, recently my girlfriend and I tried to have sex for the first time. We are both virgins. Everything was ready, but when i tried to stick my penis inside of her, she said that it hurt too much. She described the pain as if someone was pushing her even though i was barely touching her. Is there anything wrong with her because I'm kinda worried she might get hurt or something. [Frown]
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Hey, welcome to Scarleteen ! [Smile]

Did your girlfriend really want to have sex and were she ready ? And did she have any worry whatsoever during it ?

A lot of the time, there is nervousness on first time and that causes the vaginal muscles to tense up, hence can make penetration difficult, if not impossible and can for sure create some pain. So you are far from the only ones having to deal with that. No worries. [Smile]

Also, were you using lube and enough of it ? And did you both do plenty of foreplay and were totally aroused BEFORE getting to intercourse ? If not, that might have been the cause of your problem here.

There are also other possibilities such as medical conditions (like a resilient hymen for example) that might be also be the culprit here but those above needs to be ruled out first.

Here is an article you might find helful :
Painful sex

I suggest you read it and come back after if you've got any more questions.

[ 04-29-2007, 09:04 AM: Message edited by: cool87 ]

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In addition to the article Cool linked you to, here's another three articles that I think you'll find helpful:
Ready or Not? The Readiness Checklist
First Intercourse 101
Safe, Sound & Sexy : A Safer Sex How-To

The good news is that there is nothing wrong with your girlfriend. Most likely, she was just a little nervous and therefore not as relaxed and aroused she could be.

So. Read those articles, invest in some lube, and take it slow. [Smile]

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