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Coco-Fizzle1102
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Ok, so this is my first post, im new to this site, Hi!, lol, and i hope this is in the right group of questions, but anyways...
My boyfriend has fingered me a few times now, and im starting to worry if i can get pregnant from it if he has some sperm on his fingers from wiping it off himself from when i would masturbate for him. He doesnt go very far in or anything, and my hymen isnt broken, as far as i know, but im still unsure of what can happen. [Confused]

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Leabug
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The hymen is actually quite close to the entrance of your vaginal canal, so if your boyfriend can insert his finger, your hymen is already perforated. (Most hymens are perforated anyway- how else would vaginal and menstrual fluids get out? [Smile] )

If he has sperm on his finger (like dripping wet) which he then inserts into you, you do have a pregnancy risk. Also, this presents an STI risk- have you both been tested?

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Heather
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FYI, the hymen, when it is present, isn't deep inside the vagina. It's right at the vaginal opening. So, if you menstruate, if you engage in fingering, then you can rest assured that at the very most, you have a partial hymen, and it may even be fully worn away by now.

Regardless, the hymen doesn't prevent pregnancy, even when intact.

And regardless of THAT, pregnancy from manual sex really isn't something you need to worry about unless your partner is going in there with a literal handful of semen. But ideally? handwashing before fingering you is a good idea anyway: that also helps protect you from bacterial infections, STIs and vaginal imbalances.

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Coco-Fizzle1102
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Thanks alot for replying back. Its never dripping wet, i make sure his hand is wiped off on a towel before anything happens. We havent been tested yet, which sort of bothers me, because i want to make sure nothings wrong, but we're both, or were, depending on how you want to look at it, virgins, so he says that if we're both birgins we should be ok. I know thats not always true, but i dont know how to get him to go get tested without risking him getting mad or thinking im lying about being a virgin.
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Heather
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You explain to him that having had any sort of sexual activity at all with others creates a risk, and that the idea it doesn't is false.

You can also explain that you'd just feel safer and better with testing: any partner who doesn't want to support something good for you both which also makes a partner feel more at ease just plain isn't a good partner to be with.

And a partner who gets mad or accuses you of lying for asking about screenings is something to plain old get the heck AWAY from.

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Coco-Fizzle1102
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Well neither of us has had any sort of sexual relationship with anyone else, but some people like to look at oral sex and masturbation as sex, which is fine, but some dont, so i dont know. But i dont know how to go about getting tested, whats all involved, if parents have to know, all that stuff.
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Even if you've never been in a sexual relationship, there are still STIs that can be present- for example, you can get oral herpes if a relative who gets cold sores gives you a kiss on the cheek.

Testing, Testing has some more information on what's done during STI testing, and testing is confidential, so your parents will not have to know.

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