So my boyfriend asked me today if the times we've had sex I've gone all the way (if I had an orgasm). However, I haven't and well, I told him the truth, I promised I would never lied about anything, plus you could tell he knew the answer. He says he doesn't know what to do and he thinks is his fault. I don't know what to do, I want to reach that level (of an orgasm) but I don't know how. Is there anything I could do or anything he could do?
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Are you not able to orgasm at all or just during sex?
To be honest, without clitoral stimulation during intercourse, penetration alone probably won't produce an orgasm. Its just how us women are made. The vaginal canal doesn't have many nerve endings. Our clitoris is the only organ that was made ONLY for sexual purposes. So your best bet for achieving orgasm is to focus on that.
Sex doesn't have to be limited to just penetration. Explore other avenues of sex (oral, manual etc). Try to incorporate those things before, during, and after actual intercourse.
I know this is a big blow to your boyfriend's ego. Just try to explain that it has nothing to do with him, its just a matter of anatomy. (I've had this same conversation with my boyfriend ) Good luck!
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