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Chandie Lee
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So, I'm not even sure how to start this off and I'm not used to asking for advice, but here goes nothing.
Okay, me and my boyfriend have been dating for 4 months now. It really seems as if he knows what he's doing, because he's really good with his hands; he's fingered me, gone down on me and all that jazz. It's come to his and my attention that... I haven't done anything for him. I want to, very much so, but I am kinda new at this and I'm afraid to mess up, you know? The other hard part about this is that I dated a girl for two years before me and my bf got together and everytime I try to get past my fear of messing up all I can remember is how to please another female. How do I get past this 'perfectionism' of mine? I believe my bf is starting to get bored. Sorry if I seem as if I'm freaking out or something. Thanx for your help in advance.

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DarkChild717
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We can't give you techniques or anything like that, but we can give you a small piece of advice--ASK. Talk to your partner, and see what he likes best. That's the best way to find out what your partner enjoys, male, female, or otherwise.

In otherwords, I doubt he did anything to you without you giving some sort of feedback, like vocalizing or what have you. Just ask him to be more specific.


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Chandie Lee
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Thanx mucho for the advice ^_^ I guess talking it over would be the best thing to do.

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nmfsoma
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what do you mean by doing stuff for him?
are you talking about masturbation? or Oral?

either way, i'd agree with one of the other posts... i'm a guy, and one of the most refreshing things i've EVER heard a girl say is "i'm not very experienced, could you tell me what to do?"
it's simple as that, it's not embarrassing that you can't suck dick like a pro! so don't worry about it...


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