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BetterSitUp
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Last night my boyfriend and I had anal sex. It was something we had been talking about for a long time. We've tried a couple times before, but it always began to hurt so I would ask him to stop. We'd been doing some stimulation with fingers and such, and last night I decided I wanted to try again. He helped me relax, and we communicated really well and were successful. And it was actually rather enjoyable.

Ok, so now with that information, I have a question. We used a lot of lube, and started with a condom, but it kept slipping down, and getting in the way, I was afraid it might come off inside me, so he took it off. We have been together for over a year, and have both had negative STD screenings. I am on birth control, and we don't use condoms for PIV intercourse. So I guess I just want to make sure that this wont harm either one of us. We showered right after we were done, so it's not like he touched my vagina with dirty hands or, anything else. If someone could just let me know the risks here, I would appreciate it.

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Ashy
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Using barrier protection is important for anal sex, even if one were 100% sure that one had no STDs (which no one does, really). Trace amounts of fecal matter in the anus contain harmful bacteria, as well as the fact that the fact that the anus is delicate and very prone to microtears.

Perhaps a female condom could be an alternative to the male condom if you found that the regular condom kept falling off.


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ladydexter
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quote:
Originally posted by Ashy:
Perhaps a female condom could be an alternative to the male condom if you found that the regular condom kept falling off.

I think the issue was the condom being used for anal sex slipping off, Ashy. In which case, the only thing I could suggest is maybe a snugger fit of condom and/or oodles of lube?


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BetterSitUp
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I guess I really just want to know how important a condom is in this situation, for us. I mean if we were to do it again would it be absolutly essential that we use one? I've heard contradicting things. Some have said a consom should always be worn for anal sex, yet others say that it is not needed for married and/or monogomous couples. Thanks for the replies!

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DarkChild717
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Frankly, whether you're married or not doesn't matter. Singing a marriage liscense does not exempt you from all the issues that might arrise.

We highly reccomned condoms for anal sex because of the sensitive nature of it. A condom can help protect the skin inside the anus from small tears. Also, lubrication is a must. The anus does not produce natural lubrication, like the vagina. A condom also helps prevent the spreading of bacteria from the anus to the vagina.

Believe or not, a pregnancy risk can exist, as well. Gravity still exists, and semen still must seep out. Because of the closness of the anus to the vagina, and the fact that sperm are strong swimmers all contribute to a very possible pregnancy risk.

If you feel comfortable enough with your partner and your use of condoms, that's okay. But lots of lubrication is essential.


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wobblyheadedjane
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Condoms should *always* be worn for anal sex. Why? Aside from STD/STIs that may be a risk, fecal matter carries bacteria. Bacterial infections can be quite common, and it's much more pleasant to avoid them. Also, if condoms are your only method of protection, anal sex can carry a pregnancy risk too, since semen can drip out of the anus towards the vagina. Condoms, and lots of lube to prevent condom breakage, are a very good thing.
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