I know a question about orgasm was asked a little while ago on this board..I read it and I know it can sometimes take just more than regular vaginal intercourse to orgasm. But my thing is, even before I had sex for the first time, I used to try to stimulate myself (clitoral). It would feel good most of the time, but I never reached that point where it felt like an orgasm- never a wonderful feeling. Then when I had sex for the first time this year, after it stopped being painful, it felt okay, but I felt more of the 'action' down there (the movement) than the actual stimulating feelings. I hope this isn't too confusing, but basically, on my own and with a partner (granted, my relationship w/this guy was really bad & I was hardly ever aroused w/him), I've never reached orgasm, and I'm just kind of sad/worried. Any help appreciated.
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Worrying about it, or obsessing constantly won't help
You can actually make it worse and even harder to orgasm if your intent is to have one when you have sex or if you worry about NOT having one.
Relax, not every woman orgasms all the time, and rarely does someone orgasm every time they have sexual intercourse. You are right, on many occasions it does take more than just sexual intercourse to have an orgasm.
I suggest you stop worrying about why you aren't orgasming, and concentrate on the moment (i.e, when you are having sex, making love, what have you). You might find relaxing and enjoying the sensations you DO feel will make it a whole heck of a lot easier to have an orgasm.
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