I know this probably sounds like an insane question And I know all the debate about the definition of 'virginity.' My definition is penis to vagina penetration, so going by that, I have a question... A while back, my boyfriend and I were 'together' for the first time, and there was penetration. I didn't bleed and it wasn't at all painful. He considered us having sex... The next week, we had sex, but that time it was slightly painful for me, and there was some bleeding, usual signs of losing one's "virginity" (as defined above I guess I just wanted to know if the effects were possible to have if a girl's hymen were still intact, or was the first time less than true vaginal sex? Thanks
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A hymen means very little. If virginity were about that solely, a girl could lose it to a horse or a bad fall, or be born a non-virgin. And if a penis goes in a vagina, that's intercourse, coitus; sex (or a form of). Blood and pain mean nothing unless the person you're dating is undead.
------------------ Milke, with an L, SSBD, RATS, TMNTP, MF
In addition, bleeding and pain can be caused by things like lack of arousal or insufficient lubrication or small abrasions in the delicate tissues of the vagina, not just erosion of the hymen.
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