Typically when a guy talks about a girls "cherry" he is referring to her hymen because in intercourse with some women it is broken (it "pops") and it bleeds. However, it is not true a girls "cherry should be popped" in order for a guy to finger her. After all, girls masturbate with their hymen intact!
Posts: 218 | Registered: Apr 2002
| IP: Logged |
let's take the first steps in abandoning the term "popped cherry." next time someone mentions it to you, kindly correct them and tell them the term is "broken, eroded or ruptured hymen."
next point of business, most women's hymens are already eroded by the time they hit puberty. if the hymen doesn't erode at least partially, there would be no way for menstrual blood to escape.
if a girl wants to engage in manual sex, yes, her hymen needs to be eroded at least partway before her partner can put his/her (not all of us are straight) fingers inside. if for some reason the hymen is still completely covering the vagina, a doctor can snip it quickly (this is usually done so that the girl can menstruate).
and some girls bled when the hymen is broken, others do not. and sometimes the hymen stretches instead of breaking.
------------------ "In God we trust. All others must pay cash..." faw-choon kookie say.
Posts: 12677 | From: Los Angeles, CA ... somewhere off the 10 | Registered: Jul 2000
| IP: Logged |
Just a teeny addition: manual sex does NOT have to involve insertion of fingers into the vaginal opening. It can, but it doesn't have to, and many women have plenty of manual sex that they have a darned good time with that is no insertion, but instead, stimulation of the clitoris and other parts of the vulva and genitals.
You might also want to ask yourself if the guys saying that to you might have meant that they didn't want to get sexually involved with someone they did not understand to be a virgin. Given, what's up with the hymen has nothing to do with that since virginity is a concept only, but still. Some people are of that mindset.
Copyright 1998, 2014 Heather Corinna/Scarleteen
Scarleteen.com: Providing comprehensive sex education online to teens and young adults worldwide since 1998
Information on this site is provided for educational purposes. It is not meant to and cannot substitute for advice or care provided by an in-person medical professional. The information contained herein is not meant to be used to diagnose or treat a health problem or disease, or for prescribing any medication. You should always consult your own healthcare provider if you have a health problem or medical condition.