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LILDcutee
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Here it goes.... I've known this guy for about 2 years now. He has always had a crush on me, but I never really noticed him untill now. Now, hes leaving to College, and we are just kickin it (great timing to start a relationship, huh?) All of da sudden I've been wanting to have sexual intercourse. Yes, I am still a virgin. But, I don't want to have intercourse for two reasons: 1) I've always been taught to wait till marriage 2)I have my period. I've been really tempted these couple of days, but I have my period. I also, think he's been wanting to "finger" me...And I'm kind of thinking...: wouldnt that be nasty?(u know since I am in my period) and what about having intercourse while on my period is that dangerous or something like that?
Also, I know this off the subject but do you think he is just using me while he goes off to college.? Cuz I really am starting to like him. He is soo respectful though, cuz he told me "you dont have to do it if you dont want too?" SO please help me....I really need your opinion on this.

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kythryne
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Per the guidelines that you just agreed to follow when you signed up, please read through the articles before posting. I'd suggest these, to start:

Ready or Not?
First Intercourse 101
Safe, Sound & Sexy ? A Safer Sex How-To
Sexual Response and Orgasm
Does Abstinence make the Heart Grow Fonder?

Also, this is not the appropriate forum for this sort of question, so I'll move it to Sex Basics & Sexual Health. You might find our New to Scarleteen? discussion helpful, as well: http://www.scarleteen.com/forum/Forum19/HTML/000124.html

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Kythryne Aisling
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logic_grrl
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There's nothing inherently "nasty" or "dangerous" about having manual sex or intercourse while you've got your period, but you do need to take as much care with birth control as at any other time, and even more care with safer sex (blood increases the likelihood of transmitting some STDs). But if the idea makes you feel uncomfortable, then don't do it - you don't have to do anything you don't want to.

As for the big question of whether you should or shouldn't have sex with this guy - you're the only one who can decide what is right for you. Check out the articles that Kythryne listed; they should give you some things to think about while making your decision.


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Vinnie Tesla
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quote:
Originally posted by LILDcutee:
)I have my period. I've been really tempted these couple of days, but I have my period. I also, think he's been wanting to "finger" me...And I'm kind of thinking...: wouldnt that be nasty?(u know since I am in my period) and what about having intercourse while on my period is that dangerous or something like that?

Nasty is subjective. It never bothered me much. I've been a little squeamish about going down on menstruating women, but it really isn't bad. If you're using a dental dam, it should be no issue at all.

Some women I've dated have raised libidos during their periods and enjoy sex more. Others have the opposite reaction.

You should sit on something you can throw in the laundry afterwards. I've known the blood to soak right through a towel, through the sheets underneath, and into the matress once.


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