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imogenasksyou
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Hi,
I just had sex with my boyfriend for the first time. It was both of our first times. We had sex for about 30 minutes and he didnt cum, the only reason we stopped was because i had to go home. Is the fact that he didnt cum whilst we had sex okay? Im in no way judging him, i didnt really mind, but i just want him to be able to orgasm as well as me. In foreplay weve had prior he didnt cum, and i posted something about it a bit back, but its a new case now since we had sex. A friend told me that when her and her boyfriend first had sex he lasted only a minute till he came. im a bit concerned for my boy, but should i be?

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Heather
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Did you orgasm yourself? I ask that because often women will be very invested in their partners reaching orgasm in a way that isn't reciprocal. If it's no big if you don't orgasm, it's no big if he didn't, either.

And I'd say it isn't. Our enjoyment of sex is about our enjoyment the whole time, not just about if sex -- of any kind -- results in orgasm or not. With intercourse specifically, most women will NOT orgasm through that alone, and some men don't either. And with people of any gender, they may orgasm through intercourse sometimes, but not always.

The big question is this: did both of you enjoy that time together, physically and emotionally?

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imogenasksyou
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yeah that sounds logical [Smile] thankyou
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dude_silicon_valley
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Did your boyfriend lose erection? If not, its perfectly fine. How fast he cums also depends on when he last ejaculated. If he masturbated an hour before having sex, most likely it will be a while till he cums again.
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