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Heather
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What are some myths and old wives tales you've heard about sex? We hear a good many of them around here, and sometimes it's a good idea to get'em out there for discussion since we may not all *know* they are myths.


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A notorious myth that doesn't seem to go away is that you can not get pregnant the first time you have sexual intercourse. Not true! A very good friend of mine did. Poof! Myth has vanished.
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Heather
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That's a good one.

To counter that one witha fact, statistically the time most women get pregnant is within the first six months of having sexual intercourse.


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The most amazing myth I've ever read was right here on the boards...the sexpert one to be exact. Some poor young soul was a tad bit misguided and asked if condoms would provide sufficient protection from STD's and pregnancy. She said that some of her friends said they would and some said they wouldn't...I just could not believe it when I read that, but I heard two girls in my lockerroom talking about why condoms don't protect from anything...so I guess it's more widespread than I thought...

Brittany


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the myth that i hadnt even considered until i heard it was 'do tampons make u lose ur virginity'? that one sounded extremely bizarre to me.

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The most common one that people tell me everyday that annoys me so much I want to scream is: sex=intercourse between a man and a woman. GRRRRR!

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quote:
If you douche with coke, you won't get pregnant.

Wouldn't the sugar make the sperm swim faster? Gee, people!

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What about, "I like having sex with girls who are on their period. Then I don't have to use a condom, 'cause I can't get her pregnant"?

I heard that one at the lunch table last year and I choked so hard I almost died. Can you BELIEVE it?

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Beppie
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That the length of a girl's nose is the size that her penis would be if she was male. I had someone get mad at me once in high school because I didn't believe that.
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Heather
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Now Beppie, that was is amazing. And to think, all of us who got the Italian nose from my father's side of the family just thought we had a big schnoz. Who knew that we were actually simply well-endowed?
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My personal faves in the old-wives'-tales contingent:

-- that women cannot get pregnant if they are raped (cruel *and* stupid misinformation, isn't that great...)

-- that no one ever likes fat people sexually
(er, well, I'm living proof that this one isn't true)

-- that women who have never had sex before will be so vaginally narrow that penetration will be difficult (it's not like you hafta drill the hole, ya know?)

-- that you can know whether someone is "the kind of person who would have an STD" by looking at him/her (since about 25% of the population contracts an STD at some point in their lives, how the heck can you tell?)

I think those are my top faves. There are plenty of others that irritate the dickens out of me, though.

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How about the one that says 'if a girl jumps up and down after she has sex, she won't be pregnant'? Or, 'if she stands on her head after she has sex, she definetly WILL get pregnant'? I always thought that those were among the most common.
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This was kinda funny, when I was younger I used to believe that when a man is on top having sex, the female will have a male baby, if the woman is on top she will have a female baby..just thought I would share that.

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I think my favorites are:

-Big hands, big feet, big penis.
-Shoe size divided by two equals length.

Those are so funny. Especially some of the inside jokes..

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Hm. A lot of my, uh, favorites have been hit, but here are a few:

You can tell whether someone has been engaging in sexual activity/is or isn't a "virgin"/is homosexual/is straight by looking at them. Uh, unless they're wearing a sign, no.

Sex that involves penetration means automatic orgasm for everyone!

STDs/unplanned pregnancy happen to other people.

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Pixie69
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Yeah, all these guys I know say you can tell if a girl masturbates by the way she walks...considering what, 95% of us do it's hard to be wrong!

Brittany


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The myth among teens that irritates me most is that guys are ALL cruel and insensitive and that the first time is always wonderful for the guy and awful for the girl.

The sheer level of sexual ignorance among teens disgusts me. You would think that since we talk about it so much most people would be less ignorant...


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I gotta reply to what Mophead said about the Coke and stuff.

okay, i had to laugh a sec 'cause Coke as a contraceptive is just so absurd and preposterous that it's kindafunny. Unfortunate if people actually believe it, though. gullible.

but the logic was a little off. The sugar in Coke is sucrose, which isn't a fuel source for sperm. In fact, sperm don't really even use the fructose in semen, they run on citrate (and ergothionine). And Coke is acidic, so that shouldn't make those li'l guys very happy.

Nonetheless, that doesn't make it a good contraceptive. If it were, it probably wouldn't be sold in the fridge aisle of 711.

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Wow, Gumdrop! You go!

quote:
Sex that involves penetration means automatic orgasm for everyone!


*screams*
I hate that one!!!

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If you masturbate with anything then you lost your virginity. Or if something is inserted into the vagina (by a doctor or otherwise) they took away your virginity.

And my mom is under the assumption that if i use a tampon then I will have no proof of my virginity....to late...masturbation had already taken care of that. And a hymen proves very little because a lot of girls dont even have them in the first place.

And I just want to comment on something...I was in a conversation with some girlfriends of mine about sex (the health aspects of it) and they were amazed at how much i knew. about it. Most of the time they didnt even believe me. And for some reason it bothered them that I knew so much. Is it just me or is that just screwed up?


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My favorite is the guy/girl double standards........guy sleeps around, he's a stud, girl sleeps around, she's a slut. You'd think after the sexual revolution of the sixties that wouldn't be considered true in society today, but.............sigh.

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I think my favorite is girls who enjoy sex are whores (religious upbringing), and that oral sex is only something prostitutes give head.

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remember in the good old days when people believed that women needed to have children to stay sane? "hysteria" comes from the Greek word for uterus. Barren women supposedly went nuts. i think it's peer pressure, if anything. :P

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My grandmother always told my mother to stay away from cows when she was on her period because she would spoil their milk...

Now that's interesting...

All I have to say is, "MOO!"

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When you have sex for the first time, there WILL be blood. There just will be. And lots of it, or else you weren't really a virgin in the first place.

What gets me is that this is one I've seen here. Guys, if you need to make your girlfriend bleed to prove how macho you are, maybe you should slink off to join the Undead, where you apparently belong.


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Here's the one that i hate:
People who are gay or bi are sick puppies. That is the wrost one that goes around.

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Following on from the "penetrative sex always results in orgasm" one, another one I remember from school is the my that a woman has an orgasm every time she has penetrative sex even if she doesn't feel it.
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Milke
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Oh, yes, thank you Beppie.

How about . . .If you don't orgasm with the time/technique your SO allows, you aren't going to, and aren't worth another try. *hissss*


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quote:
Originally posted by sweet chick:

People who are gay or bi are sick puppies.

That, or bisexuals are merely confused and need to pick one side or the other.

Awhile ago I overheard my mom telling my dad she didn't think rape was possible because a girl needs to be properly lubed up for a boy to even get in. I couldn't bring myself to say anything.

Some others: You can get pregnant from oral sex. If a guy pulls out, you can't get pregnant. *Some* girls have hoods over their clits that make it more difficult for them to orgasm. (Let's count how many levels that's wrong on.)



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A new one was posted today....

If a girl masturbates she cant have children.


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One that gets me: ladies who don't sit with their knees touching are whores.

This isn't physically possible without using a lot of muscle, unless you're SERIOUSLY underweight. Squishing anything vertically will make it expand horizontally! Therefor, thighs get wider than knees and I just don't have the muscle power to pull my knees together for an hour straigh.

Other ways to be 'lady like' include crossing your legs, which is only comfortable for so long, and from certain chair heights

And sitting with your feet 2-2.5 feet apart so that your knees fall together, and looking bow-legged and stupid. Grrr, sometimes church just ain't fun.


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Beppie
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You know, about the crossing legs- my mother was told by the nuns at her Catholic school that if a girl crossed her legs it meant that she had "had a man".
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I heard the dumbest (I of course assumed myth) the other day. That a sneeze is 1/4 of an orgasms? What is that shnit? In other words sneeze for times and you'll cream. That is so dumb!
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Actually, to be a lady, you're supposed to sit with your legs crossed at the ankle. And I can do this, and keep my knees together, but I also tend to be good at yoga -- but I'm not a virgin. Paradox upon paradox.
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You know, Shygurl, that isn't the first time I've heard about a connection between sneezes and orgasms.
I once heard an elder whom I have a good deal of respect for, talking about how the physiology behind sneezes and orgasms is the same. I'm not sure if she was referring to orgasms in general or male ones specifically.
I'm not saying this is a myth, I just thought I'd follow up on your comment with it.

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