When my boyfriend and I do stuff, like when he fingers me or when we have sex, it feels great. And I always want him to rub the clit, and that feels..even better. BUT..everytime I always make him stop before I can orgasm or anything. I didn't stop him one time, though, and it was the best thing I ever felt during sex! But I don't know why I keep stopping him now, it doesn't hurt or anything, and it does really feel good. I think I'm scared or something, which I don't know why I would be if we've done it before? Is there like..something wrong here or what?
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That's exactly what i am like! Its really weird isnt it? It cant figure out why im like that. I think its almost as if im embarresed to orgasm or something ..... :/
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Well, you might be, you know. And that's okay and not entirely unreasonable.
We're all pretty vulnerable during sex with partners, inculding orgasm. orgasm also involves a certain amount of letting go, of accepting a lack of control, even if it's just for a few seconds. It also means feeling vulnerable and very intimate afterwards, of letting another person see us when -- well, let's be honest, our faces look a little funny, we make odd noises, what have you.
So, really, it's not al that weird to feel a bit uncertain, especially when orgasm or partnered sex are new to you.
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