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When my boyfriend and I do stuff, like when he fingers me or when we have sex, it feels great. And I always want him to rub the clit, and that feels..even better. BUT..everytime I always make him stop before I can orgasm or anything. I didn't stop him one time, though, and it was the best thing I ever felt during sex! But I don't know why I keep stopping him now, it doesn't hurt or anything, and it does really feel good. I think I'm scared or something, which I don't know why I would be if we've done it before? Is there like..something wrong here or what?
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Is there something wrong w/ being scared? I don't think so.

Is there something wrong w/ going ahead w/ something that's making you scared? Defineatly.

You need to figure out what's making you scared and talk about this with your partner. You'll probably need a break from the sexual activity, for now, to figure it out.

Once you figure it out what it is, you can work on fixing it. They key right now is figuring out what "it" is.

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That's exactly what i am like! Its really weird isnt it? It cant figure out why im like that. I think its almost as if im embarresed to orgasm or something ..... :/
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Well, you might be, you know. And that's okay and not entirely unreasonable.

We're all pretty vulnerable during sex with partners, inculding orgasm. orgasm also involves a certain amount of letting go, of accepting a lack of control, even if it's just for a few seconds. It also means feeling vulnerable and very intimate afterwards, of letting another person see us when -- well, let's be honest, our faces look a little funny, we make odd noises, what have you.

So, really, it's not al that weird to feel a bit uncertain, especially when orgasm or partnered sex are new to you.

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