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Lady Bastard
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ok you guys this might be a weird question but I'm kind of scared to have my b/f see my vagina. He wants to perform oral sex on me but suppose he doesnt like how it looks? I'm light skin but its kind of a darkish pink I hate it because he never seen it before and I dont know how he's gonna react or think of it. help?? :(

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Well I can't tell you how he'll reacr, but any guy that will dump you because he thinks your vagina is odd looking is just pathetic.

Colour variations in the skin on your vagina are perfectly normal, and you can't change them. So, if you're really nervous about it, just explain it to your boyfriend. And, as we all know, safe sex is the best-use some protection (dental dam, clingwrap) when you have oral sex.

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Gumdrop Girl
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y'know, if he really wants to go there, i'm sure he won't be intimidated by how it looks. the skin around the vulva* tends to be darker than the rest of the body because it has more capillaries which allow extra blood flow to the region during sexual arousal. The male scrotum is the same way, it too is darker than the surrounding area.

but it seems you are still uncomfortable with the idea, so your best bet is to hold off until you and your body get better acquainted. Sex is not a thing to be rushed (contrary to popular belief, oral sex is still **sex** as is manual sex aka fingering or hanjobs, etc). Make sure you know what makes you feel good. Know what doesn't feel good. Know your limits. And go to your local library and look at a book on anatomy.

Then, if and when you decide to try oral sex, use a condom on him, even if it tastes bad because latex taste is nowhere near as nasty as a gonorrheal infection in your throat. and if he wants to go down on you, get some cling film and use it to cover your vulva so there isn't any direct exchange of fluids.

* the vulva is the collective name of the external female genitalia. the vagina itself is an internal muscular tube with an opening, which may be partially covered by the hymen.

where were the anatomical diagrams again?

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http://www.scarleteen.com/pink/pages/anatomy.html

*high fives GumdropGirl*

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Jeeze, double-teaming? BAD girls!

On a personal note, my girl was extremely nervous about showing me the first time. I still don't really understand why.

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LilBlueSmurf
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Well people have all sorts of areas on their body that they're self concious about ... And the vagina is one of the most popular, right up there w/ boobs and butt Just go w/ it ... I'm sure he's just as nervous to show you his parts! Talk to him about it and then he'll know and feel even better that he can get that close to you.

And aren't you gonna spank them too ThisGuy? Geez, you like spanking don't you? hmph Keep your hands to yourself and no one gets hurt!! lol

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Gumdrop Girl
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"A spanking! A spanking!!!
And after the spanking, the oral sex.
Oral sex!"

what can I say, I LOVE Monty Python

Hmm, I wasn't afraid the first time I tried oral sex. My partner at the time was pretty eager and had been begging me for months. So I figured whatever the case, he'd enjoy himself.

Second time 'round, the first time I let my current guy go there, he was kinda surprised that I hadn't completely shaven myself. So I told him if he didn't like it, I could put my pajamas back on, and he could sleep in the living room.

so there, for all the people with hang ups with their body hair. if they don't like it, tough cookies!

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My girlfriend was the same way. She was very terified to let me see her vagina. I had been beging her for months and she wouldn't let me see it. On some occations she would say okay and close her eyes and just relax but somthing told me that she still wasn't ready so I said it was okay and I would give her this great big hug. I knew it was right when she pulled down her pants for me and seemed quit okay with it. The best thing to do is just wait till you are completly comfortable or just face your fears.

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I totally understand what ur going though. i had the same problem but then i was like what the heck, i love myself and im not going to let anything get in my way of having fun. the reason i was so worryed was b/c my bf showed me this playboy mag. and there was a girl in there he said was an ugly dog and a bad role model for anyliving thing. and i saw what her vagina looked like and i thought thats what mine should look like and it didnt, but when i finally showed my bf my "hidden treasure" he said it was the most beautiful peice of art work he has ever seen.
Good Luck!
~*~Katelin~*~

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Lady Bastard
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AWWW TROUBLEMAKA THAT IS SO CUTE!! I STILL SCARED ABOUT SHOWING HIM MINES BUT NOT LIKE BEFORE.I DONT KNOW WHY I'M SCARED BUT I'M NOT GOING TO WORRY. MAYBE IT'S NOT AS BAD AS I THINK IT IS. THANKS

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