i do know that this board promotes safe sex and that you should use a condom when you do perform oral sex. maybe you should suggest this to your friend next time...it'll definitely pervent any swallowing next time as well as STD's.

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It's not so much that they like it to be swallowed, most males really couldn't care less, but a lot of guys involuntarily raise their hips when they orgasm, which tends to push the penis further into the girl's mouth, so let's all pray she doesn't choke. :P And a lot of guys just like the feeling of having their whole penis in something. Or maybe the guy has just watched a lot of pornographic videos, has no idea what he's doing, so he's at least trying to make it look right by imitating the movement. Other than that, that's all I know.

About swallowing ejaculate... I think some guys like to have girls do that because it's the whole dominant/submissive thing, it's a little power trip, I guess. Another reason for it is intimacy. If you 2 are in a really close relationship, when you swallow his ejaculate, it's like a "connection" between you two. As for a guy pushing a girl's head down, I heard that it feels much better when the whole penis is engulfed, even during oral sex.

Back to your original question: As expressed in the variety of opinions offered in the posts, there are different reasons why a guy might push a girl's head down so that she'll swallow his ejaculate. The bottom line, though, is that unless it's something she agrees to, it's inconsiderate. A smart male will be appreciative that he's getting a blow job at all, and while he may ask his girlfriend to do certain things he finds pleasurable, to coerce her to do something she may or may not want without asking is just rude.

Well, firstly, it's a reaction, you don't do it to control, or be mean, or to MAKE her swallow, or whatever. But my theory, is that of intercourse, and instinct, that when a man knows he's going to ejaculate, he'll push as far as he can into a woman to make the journey as short as possible for sperm, giving them more energy to work on their initial task, of penetrating the egg.

The fact it's a woman's head, as opposed to her butt doesn't change much in the theoretical instinct. You may not notice, or care when it's your butt, but I'm almost certain it still happens.

my explanation: by swallowing, you are showing him that what you are doing isn't dirty to you in any way. it shows that you can be uninhibited with him. it could be similar to the idea of the significance of penetration -- you are taking something that came from him into your body.

or i could be completely off base here, and it might just be that he wants you to swallow because he cannot be bothered with the box of Kleenex.

i'll admit a peccadillo here (condoms, yes, i should have, but i didn't that time ) and say i've swallowed before. and it surprised him because to him, it was a very bold move. then go back to one of the explanations offered above.

Anyways, as a guy, I can tell you that I don't care if she spits or swallows - apart from a hygeine thing, it doesn't mean a thing to me.

I prefer it to be "in" at the end, of course. Think about it...if a guy is busy going down on you, and stops just at the critical moment, then just starts to mess around with his hand, it feels nice, but not NICE.

Same principle applies. ;p

Between Hanne and myself at this point, I feel safe saying that we have had exponentially more lovers than most of our users, and neither of us can say that: guys" or "girls" or anything in between like ANY one thing.

I haven't experienced "guys" doing this in any general means. Soome have held my head, some have not. Some have sometimes, and not others. Sometimes I have in fact placed their hands on my head, and none of it had to do with swallowing, it had to do with being guided by the rhythm a man may have wanted. I have known women do do exactly the same thing sometimes.

I would suggest to you that someone who did it to "force" someone to swallow is exhibiting rather passive-agressive behaviour. I would also, as has been said here, advise you use a condom anyway.

I prefer my guy to climax in my mouth. of course i am into the passive aggresive thing. I prefer to be submissive when giving my b/f fellatio and do what he wants as long as it is within my limits. He feels the same way when giving me oral sex; he does what i want in his limits (but he doesnt really have limits for oral sex)

Do you want to go through life sounding like something from a bad fantasy novel?

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