Of course, some guys might see it as a form of "conquest", or softening up...but if you're sure enough of your guy to let him do it for you, that's not a problem.

Basically it really really shouldn't hurt. It should happen when you are ready, and not before. You have to be relaxed and comfortable for it.

If it hurts, don't do it. Its that simple. Just because people do something, doesn't mean you have to.

Basically, my point here is: take your own pace, and do things you want to do. Don't be pressured into anything by your partner, or peer pressure.

I just replied to your other post, simoneluvsbradley, and I'm sensing a theme here.

Like I said in my other post, sometimes sexual activities *can* hurt. However, like all other kinds of pain, that's a signal from the body that says "slow down" or "stop." And like any other physical activity, if you're in pain, you should respond to the pain by slowing down, stopping, and finding ways to make it hurt less.

Sex is "supposed to" be enjoyable for all parties involved. If a sexual activity is not something that you want to do, or something that you're not ready to do, for whatever reason, then you probably won't enjoy it, and then it'll seem pretty pointless.

This doesn't mean that if you're ready and you really want to that suddenly fireworks explode and magical rainbows appear every where, either; sometimes bodies are stubborn and things just don't go the way we want them to.

However, my best sexual experiences, including the ones with myself, have been when I was emotionally and physically prepared, had gotten good reliable information about what could happen, talked with my partner about what could happen and what we wanted to happen and really wanted it for myself.

Teehee!