I just replied to your other post, simoneluvsbradley, and I'm sensing a theme here.
Like I said in my other post, sometimes sexual activities *can* hurt. However, like all other kinds of pain, that's a signal from the body that says "slow down" or "stop." And like any other physical activity, if you're in pain, you should respond to the pain by slowing down, stopping, and finding ways to make it hurt less.
Sex is "supposed to" be enjoyable for all parties involved. If a sexual activity is not something that you want to do, or something that you're not ready to do, for whatever reason, then you probably won't enjoy it, and then it'll seem pretty pointless.
This doesn't mean that if you're ready and you really want to that suddenly fireworks explode and magical rainbows appear every where, either; sometimes bodies are stubborn and things just don't go the way we want them to.
However, my best sexual experiences, including the ones with myself, have been when I was emotionally and physically prepared, had gotten good reliable information about what could happen, talked with my partner about what could happen and what we wanted to happen and really wanted it for myself.
PHILOSOPHY: Basically, this involves sitting in a room and deciding there
is no such thing as reality and then going to lunch. -- Dave Barry