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My boyfriend and I have been officially "together" for 5 months as of August 12th. We had been dating for at least 2 months before. He and I are both the kind of people who take things slow. After all this time, the only thing we've done is make out. Until, last night. And, I am extremely happy for that, and my boyfriend is as well. We are both juniors in high school and virgins.

We both feel that sex shouldn't be a part of our relationship until we mutually agree that we are ready.

So, we've decided on other alternatives for now. And last night he told me that he didn't want to have sex (actual intercourse, oral, manual, etc) until we have been together a lot longer. He's a really sentimental and passionate person, and I love the way he thinks

So, anyways..the reason why I posted this was this one concern I have:

Last night things were taken a little further and we had dry sex. We did it twice over a period of 10 hours and now we're both in a minor amount of pain.

He's got a patch of skin on his penis that looks irritated and burned, and it's from our little escapade.

Me, well, I've got minor bruising, and it's not hardly as painful as his "burn" sounds.

What can be done so that this doesn't happen? I don't really mind the bruising, it doesn't really hurt and I can deal with it. But in his situation, it sounds really painful. Is there any way to avoid this situation in the future?

Any input would be great...and thanks for any help you can give


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Firstly, congratulations. It sounds to me like the two of you have a fantastic relationship.

What you're dealing with here is essentially rugburn: friction on skin from coarse fabric. Unfortunately, what covers the penis is tissue that is FAR more sensitive than, say, the skin on your arms.

You can do a couple things. As may be obvious, shortening the length of time you do this for is an easy one. Your boyfirned could also use a little lubricant put inside a condom, then do this while wearing the condom. They actually have other uses like this beyond STD prevention and birth control.

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Thanks a bunch, Miz Scarlet

Yes, we have an absolutely *fantastic* relationship..
The condom + lubrication idea sounds like it's worth a try..

Thanks again!


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