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bananrullekake
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I dunno what the hells wrong with me. Or even if there is anything wring with me I, as most ppl, long for a relationship. Guess I don't have to explain that. I don't have any problem getting guys. They come running like hell. And it's nice with the attention and all. But it seems so that whenever I start to like a boy, something starts to pull me back. I get frightened and I run. Probably the most stupid thing I could do.
For some reason, which I don't know what is, I am afraid of intimacy. I guess I'm afraid to get rejected, or make a fool out of myself or something. Escpesially when it comes to sex. But how can I get over my fears and actually dare to go for what I so much want and long for?

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Heather
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Most fears like that, honey, are based in some actual experience.

Has anything happened to you in the past that would make you feel that way?


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Miss Innocence
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I just wanted to point out that relationships aren't just about physical intimacy. Maybe you could try having a relationship with a guy and leaving off the physical part to begin with. Become more comfortable with him. You might even confess your fears to him. Just a suggestion.

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bananrullekake
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I guess in one way. But not physically. I believe my childhood has got a lot to say on this. I've had what you could call a cold childhood. With no one to realy on and to trust, and always felt like if I was a disseapointment to others. And also my father has psycical problems. But then again things have gotten better. So I guess that it's all the feelings from all what's happen that keep me back. But I dunno. Maybe it's not. And still I dunno how to get over my fears. But thanx for paying me the attention to make me think!!
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bananrullekake
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quote:
Originally posted by Miss Innocence:
I just wanted to point out that relationships aren't just about physical intimacy. Maybe you could try having a relationship with a guy and leaving off the physical part to begin with. Become more comfortable with him. You might even confess your fears to him. Just a suggestion.

I guess I kinda know that deep inside, but it just frightens me. And I run before the relationship has even had its chance. But thank you, too, for making me think a bit further!



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