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I was at this gothic nightclub last week and this girl asked me to kiss her, i was drunk so i did, then she put her tongue in my mouth and pulled me closer to her, I put my tongue in her mouth but it wasn't turning me on or anything but she pulled me closer into her and started rubbing her hands all over my body, y'know getting really into it. Then I started to get turned on by it and pulled her closer to me and got a bit frisky and pulled her into the toilets and we started doing stuff with each other in the cubicle, like fingering each other and licking each other out and stuff. I spent the night at hers and we did some more stuff. When I got home I got a phone call of this guy and now i'm going out with him.

Am I lesbian and trying to cover up for it by going out with a guy or am I bisexual ar straight? HELP!!!

Posts: 1 | From: nunthorpe, middlesbrough, england | Registered: Aug 2000  |  IP: Logged | Report this post to a Moderator
Pittied Fool
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The sexperts are going to tell you the exact same thing (or I'm sorely mistaken), but don't let it bother you. Be free, don't let yourself be held down by labels.

And knowing many gay and bisexual people, one bit of advice: feeling good is NOT gay. Just because you enjoyed it doesn't mean your gay... it just means your body works the way it's supposed to.

If you had fun, then so be it, life goes on, and it did. You have a man, life is well, and on it goes.

"Now I've been crying lately,
Thinking about the world as it is
Why must we go on hating?
Why can't we live in bliss" - Cat Stevens

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There is nothing wrong with exploring your sexuality. As Pittied said ... don't worry yourself over labels. You were under the influence at the time that this happened. That could be a factor as to why you decided to try it out in the first place. Pressure to try something could have also occurred. I wouldn't say you were a lesbian because you did something that gave you pleasurable feelings. You became "turned on" by her actions and you were just going along with what she was doing. People also tend to explore with the persons of the same sex sometime in their life. I'm sure it wasn't anything out of the normal exploration of your sexuality. If you're currently going out with a male and are happy ... then let yourself be happy and don't worry about the labels. Do what makes you happy and feels right.

"Growing older is MANDATORY, growing up is OPTIONAL."

[This message has been edited by MysteryGirl (edited August 10, 2000).]

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gothic night club?

hmm i never found one in england when i lived there..which was way back..

here in america its hard to find a good club..

oh and by the way..she just took advantage of you is your not a lesbian

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