First I would like to apologize if this subject is a duplicate, but I couldn't find it anywere. I'm a 16 years old boy, and today my girlf friend through 5 months asked me if I wanted to have sexual intercours with her, I said yes, and as he evening progressed more and more close was dropped, at last and with alot of cooperation a got a condom on. Then the problem came both of us are virgins so neither could take the lead, and we could make it work. To make it absolutely clear, we coúld nor get the penis in the vagina. he tried both to be on top, and both to find the entrance, and leading "him" the right way. But it didn't work out and we had to quit after approx. 3 hours in total, that includes foreplay with clothes, foreplay with less clothes and so on. The question is then: What went wrong, she's 15 years old and uses a size F bra, so you would think that she's fully developed. Could the problem be that we was to slow, or is it that she isn't "large" enough, or could it just be the way that we tried?? Please return if you have an idea or answer. confused:
Posts: 1 | From: Denmark | Registered: Jul 2000
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Usually, honey, it's just a matter of practice. All in all both male and female genitalia is essentially made to confom to a wide variety of shapes and sizes. My guess is you'll both fit fine once you get the swing of it.
Next time, go ahead and open up your girlfriends vulva with your hands, move the labia back, and take a good look at what's there. The vaginal opening, which is between the clitoris and rectum, is what you're going for. You can also get an academic explanation of female anatomy here: http://www.scarleteen.com/pink/pages/anatomy.html
Keep the lights on, so you can see what you're doing, use plenty of lube to make entering easy for you both, and have patience. If it doesn't "work" when you try, do something else, and try again another time.
Sometimes it's really difficult for a guy to get it in the first time. Try using this stuff called KY, and it could really make it a lot easier to get in!
Posts: 384 | From: Malibu, California, USA | Registered: Jun 2000
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Starchild, I think that is a bit harsh. When it comes to just about anything in this world, everyone has a different experience. It is not unusual or wrong for people to have a tricky time having sex for the first time (or the second or the millionth). If things are a struggle, it could be due to many things, one is being nervous and excited.
Apple, with some practice things are likely to get better. Remember to have fun and sexual intercourse isn't the be all, end all of things. If you are having a tough time, take a break and do other things that give each of you pleasure.
I would say that if you are not all the way "hard" it may be a little tougher. Also, being that she is also a virgin, she is probably nervous and not as relaxed which makes it a little harder to "enter". Relax, take it slow... you'll get it.
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sex is awkward the first few times around. it'll work out better if you're uninhibited (meaning that if you want to try something, you're not afraid to ask, or you don't start giggling because it's "dirty") with your partner and patient. you'll get the hang of it sooner or later.
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