I just wanted to note that today's is far from my first gynecologist visit, but I still feel nervous, and I read this article every time I go. It's nice to go through and think about all the steps first, and reassures me that everything's going to be fine.
The first link at the bottom of the page, however, that links to Teenwire, is dead.
Pretty informative article. I am about to get my first gynecological exam in a few days and I am feeling a bit nervous. But, not as much as I was before I read this piece. Thanx a lot!!
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Well, i think it sucks that we have to do that at all, but better safe than sorry and at least we can "know before we go" i disagree with a lot of the things on this website because of how i have been raised and the faith that i belong to, but this article was informative and not sexually provocative, so thanks. (At least, i hope no one was sexually provoked by it)
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I'm 17 and have been having my period for 7 years. I *lost my virginity* about 3 years ago... and I've only ever had one pelvic exam. I thought that was fine, till I read this article. Now I realise how important it is to have these exams regularly and will do so. Thanks.
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I'm 19 and a virgin. I tried to briefly broach the subject of a gynecological exam with my mother today. She looked at me and said it was something you started when you "got married" (i.e. she has a more traditional view of sexual relations and she quite clearly meant "when you have sex" -- she actually even added that).
This is obviously a much broader issue. By requesting that she help me arrange an exam, I am essentially saying to my mother that I don't believe in sex only after marriage (just in looking for the right guy at the right time). This is what I believe, but I'm unsure how well it would go down with her.
I really do think it's time for me to start exams, AND possibly birth control, as a safety measure. I'm quite sure honesty and a touch of sensitivity are the best policy, but does anyone have any advice, or experiences, to share?
Really, your reproductive system is there whether you have sex or not, complications and conditions can occur whether you have sex or not.
And the old idea that only sexually active, older or married women need GYN care is a bad one, one that easily contributed and contributes still to poor women's health.
So, I'd actually suggest addressing it that way to your mother, because that truly is the real issue. I've met women my age -- I'm in my mid-thirties -- who only started seeing a GYN when they were pregnant or thinking about becoming pregnant, and some discovered that was a terrible error.
So, that's what I'd suggest. It's not about sex: it's about your health and the well-being of your female body, to make sure it's as healthy as possible through your whole life, regardless of the choices you make.
Okay after toiling over the idea of the "exam" for a long time, reading up on it as much as I can, knowing what will happen as if it were second nature, but Im still scared stupid. I know its usual to be nervous and I also know its healthy for me to go get the "exam" done. But it stil doesn't calm my nerves about such. I never liked anyone else except me or my boyfriend, looking or touching "down there" I think I gained that issue from when I was young and had to go through simailler "exams" due to a medical condition I had, I remember every bit of it, hated it that I couldn't make the doctors stop, hate my parents even more for letting the doctors do such. I know I should go but I don't know if I can stop myself from having a pannic attack whilst doing so. Any sugestions? please help I would like to have a happy healthy sexual life, like my happy love life.
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If you know that you have issues that will make a medical exam difficult for you (and many women do, so this is not an uncommon problem), the best thing to do is to be honest with your doctor and to let them know what's going on. They may be able to suggest or find ways to make an exam easier for you.
You might also want to bring a friend or relative, if you would find that comforting.
I'm 16, and recently sexually active. I've never had a gyno visit before, but I plan to go at the latest this summer before I go to college, but maybe sooner if, say, my sexual status changes and I decide to go on the pill. I'm sorry if you think this is too late and I should already go see a gyno; I will certainly take it into consideration. Anyway, my concern is this: is it likely that I will be aroused by a gyno visit, or parts of it? I don't necessarily think I will, it's just that it is sexual tension, right, since someone's touching you? I guess I'm just nervous, but any advice would be much appreciated.
- the object of your greatest affection kisses you. - your uncle Barney, who smells like moth balls and seriously needs to stop wearing plaid polyester kisses you.
Just because someone is touching you doesn't mean it'll be arousing. The above is a benign example: suffice it to say there are more intense examples, like say, being raped and having consensual sex: someone is still touching you, but in the first instance it is by no means arousing.
In other words, context is key. have women ever become aroused at the GYN office? Sure, but likely only because they found their GYN or nurse attractive, and even then, it's fairly rare to have sexual feelings IN the office, during the exam.
Not to worry: if it happens, it does, not big, but it's pretty unusual.
Could you elaborate more on the advantages of going to the gynecologist vs. having my primary care physician perform the pelvic and pap smear?
Last year it was a trade-off: I was worried about specific gyn issues so I saw my PCP for a ten minute check-up just to get asthma meds, and got the full appointment with the GYN.
This year, I'm unemployed so even though I have insurance [I pay all premiums], I have to pay the deductible. It seems to make sense financially to have my PCP do the pelvic and pap when I go for a full physical (and not just med refills). They're in the same health system, so she'll have my records from the GYN.
It is important to me to continue to go to the same doctor system I've been in my whole life -- they have all my records -- so I'd prefer not to go to PP or a similar clinic. [Especially since I have insurance and they'd probably not take me.]
Originally, I went to the gyn because the PCP couldn't get the speculum in and said I didn't need a pap as a 21 y.o. virgin; the GYN was able to get it in comfortably. Now that I'm sexually active, I expect the pap with my PCP should be easier.
What would be the advantage of spending the extra money for the second doctor visit to see the gyno separately?
If your primary care physician CAN tend to your reproductive health, that's absolutely fine. Should, at any point, you need more specialized care for any sort of reproductive health condition they CANNOT handle, you can look into a private OB/GYN at that point -- or should you become pregnant and need OB care -- but otherwise, sounds like you're fine.
Cost-wise, however, you might find that some sexual health/women's health clinics DO cost lest, esp. in terms of things like STI screenings, diagnostics, etc. So, iof you're in an area where there are independent clinics, might be worth a call for some estimates, as many indie clinics are sliding scale.
I am 20 and have not gone to the gyn yet. I know I have waited far to long and still I'm nervous about going. I'm not sexually active and have never had any problems down there. My mom never forced me to go so I never pushed the issue. But I'm 20 now and still haven't gone. I know I have to make the appointment but I'm nervous and scared. What if my doc asks why I waited so long to go? What if something goes wrong? Ugh, I just really don't want to go.
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hi i found the articles on gyn exams great because of the information.i knew stuff before but now i have a way bigger picture.iam only 14 but when the time comes for me to have a gyn exam i wont be as nervous .me and my older friends would talk about going to the gyn and i would just listen as i didnt know anything much about it.i was just wondering when would be a good time for me to start going to the gyn iam not sexually active but i would like to know that iam ok.i cant talk to my mother because when i started my periods i was too embrassed to talk about it but she knows.i dont have any older sisters or cousins to talk to about things like this please help if you can thanks
It's recomended that you see a gynecologist when you begin menstruating, which means it would be a good idea to start going now.
I understand you're embarassed to talk to your mom, but you really shouldn't be. She has gone through everything you have and a whole lot more with periods and gynecologists, so she'll understand anything you might say to her, really.
Just say to her, "Since I have started my period, I'd like to see a gynecologist."
I've never been to a gynecologist... I know I will sometime in the near future and I was nervous....they keep the rubber glove on while trying to get in my anus...oh god... they must have some sort of thing to relax me...that or lube... but I definitely needed the heads up. i had no clue about most of this, so thank you.
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When I was 17 I had my first visit to the Gynecologist. She discovered an abnormality and I had to have surgery remove the affected cells. If the problem was caught earier, it would have been easier to treat and less traumatic. If you are putting off going, please stop. It gets easier once you are familiar with the procedure. Besides, if there is something abnormal there wouldn't it be nice to have it taken care of before it becomes a big problem?
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Am I the only one who wasn't nervous about the first exam?
The only thing that freaked me out was seeing that needle going toward my arm.
I went to the Student Clinic, got through the exam, and then went back to class. Apparently the medical staff on my campus is a very gentle and caring bunch of people.
Aside from damn near giving myself an anxiety attack over a little needle, everything went great. (I've been nervous about needles ever since my TB test and the tetanus vaccination in the same arm. First I almost passed out because the nurse wiggled the needle when it went in for the test, and then she hit a nerve with the vaccination...damn rough nurses!)
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quote:Originally posted by rio23: hi i found the articles on gyn exams great because of the information.i knew stuff before but now i have a way bigger picture.iam only 14 but when the time comes for me to have a gyn exam i wont be as nervous .me and my older friends would talk about going to the gyn and i would just listen as i didnt know anything much about it.i was just wondering when would be a good time for me to start going to the gyn iam not sexually active but i would like to know that iam ok.i cant talk to my mother because when i started my periods i was too embrassed to talk about it but she knows.i dont have any older sisters or cousins to talk to about things like this please help if you can thanks
yea hi.. i agree with u..im 14 turning 15 ive had mi periods 4 2 yrs im not sexually active nd i wish 2 c a gyn..but i dnt want mi mum there well not in the room n e wayz..i also do not no how 2 ask mum..n e ideas?
hey pplz... umm im 14 had mi periods 4 2 years...i want 2 c a gyn but i dnt want to tlk 2 mum bout it coz its embarassing..im not sexually active..but im not sure how id go with some person touching mi privates who i do not know.. i really wannna go but i do not know where the place is and also..can u please tell me what they do 2 me nd how u have 2 lay..etc
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Sammie, you are old enough to see a gynecologist. Talk it over with your mom. She might not be so convinced because you'll always be her little girl, but tell her that your body is developing and you just want to make sure everything's going okay.
i was 17. i was having some issues with my uterus. the problems had started a bit before then, and we tried fixing the prob with medication, but ultimately, i went to see the gynecologist. i'd have gone sooner if it would have occured to me. but lucky for you, you asked at good time and got an answer.
thankyou gumdop girl.. i dont want to tell my mum but im not sure if i can go without a parent and how much it costs? and yes i think im goin 2 book n appointment to make sure im fine. would u recommend having a female doc or male?
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