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anya87
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Dear Scarleteen,

My partner and I had sexual intercourse two consecutive times last night. Although we had protected sex with condoms both times, I still have pregnancy fear, because my friend did not wash his penis after the first time. We started our second foreplay in about 15 mins after we had our first intercourse. I played with his penis, both with my hands and mouth & tongue, he also fingered me. I wouldn´t be too worried, except that I realized today that I am on my ovulation now (16 days from the start of my last period). What are the chances of me getting pregnant? Shouold I take the emergency pill? I still have time to take it tomorrow, but would rather not if it chances of pregnancy are very small or near zero. I already took such morning pills a couple of times in the last year (as I am really paranoid if something happens and I am not too certain, even if I have protected sex with condoms), so I would rather avoid taking one this time...Please advise...

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Jacob at Scarleteen
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Hi anya,

the way condoms tend fail, when they do, is to break, and this is a very visible, much like a popped balloon. So if the condom didn't break then pregnancy couldn't really have been caused by the intercourse you had. We tend to say that there has to be direct contact between vulva and penis/semen for there to be a pregnancy risk.

In future however, a condom indeed could break, so if you wanted to reduce that risk and the concern around that risk, it sounds like you might benefit from using a 2nd form of contraception.

To me emergency contraception doesn't seem necessary. However it would be your decision.

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anya87
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Hi Jacob,

I appreciate your quick response!
The condom did not break, but my fear is that there could be some alive semen left from the first intercourse , which was tranferred on my partner´s and my hands, then touched the second condom, my vulva...So is this not considered a direct contact?

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Molias
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When we say "direct contact" we mean something like naked genitals touching, or someone ejaculating directly on bare genitals. Touching semen and then touching genitals falls into the realm of indirect contact, which isn't a risk. Have you seen this article? It's a good run-down of what can and can't cause pregnancy (and what you're describing would fall under "manual sex" here): Can I Get Pregnant, or Get or Pass On an STI From That?
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