As longtime readers/users may know, we've tried a bunch of different approaches to try and best manage the sometimes high-level of pregnancy scare posts here.
So far, we're not happy with any of them entirely, perhaps you aren't either.
Here's what we're going to try next: We WILL help users evaluate a given situation for possible pregnancy risks if they ask for that. And per usual, when people truly are pregnant, we will gladly help with working through whatever choice anyone wants to make with that, including giving help making a choice, if that is wanted.
We Will NOT, however, go back and forth until the end of time doing things like trying to convince users that science is a real thing that is sound, or undo users irrational fears about pregnancies, like that despite periods and negative pregnancy tests, they *believe* they are pregnant.
We also will NOT continue to help a user with a pregnancy scare who refuses to get or take a pregnancy test, or with a partner who refuses. That's a limit we need to hold. We need users to basically invest just as much, if not more, of their own time, energy and $ in these situations as we do, particularly since when we're talking about consensual sex, that was a choice you made, not us.
We also WILL stick to our three-strikes rule about pregnancy scares again and again as stated in the user agreement everyone who registers agrees to. And we will NOT invest a whole bunch of time when users want to micro-analyze every detail of a possible pregnancy risk: when we answer you, you'll get to accept our answer or not, but for the most part, if you choose not to accept it, you'll need to just do that without kind of keeping us on the hook about your non-acceptance of the facts.
It's simply not a reasonable or sound use of your time, energy and resources to engage in arguments with users about things they may not believe are factual, but which are.
Lastly we will continue to make clear that we do not have the education nor the means to counsel users with ongoing mental health issues at the root of, or exacerbating, pregnancy scares, issues like OCD or anxiety disorders, for instance. We will continue to make clear that those issues need to be addressed by mental health professional qualified to evaluate and treat those disorders.
And we'll just see how this goes this way.
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Hii, I had sexual intercourse with my ex boyfriend the 31st of september, i was on my last day of ovulation according to my menstual calendar although it is a "estimation" it was protected and he never cum inside me, although because i was in my ovulation days i'm quite worried about that, we didn't have any type of genital contact until he had the condom on, he just fingered me and then he put the condom on. Im a little paranoid but i just want to know should i worry? i've asked some friends and they told me that if it was safe sex and nothing out of common happened i shall not although you never know... it was 2 days ago but I think I'm really scared... should I worry?
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We ask that everyone start a new topic for their questions; can you click "new topic" at the top or bottom of the page to start your own thread for this question? Thanks!
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