Okay i really need some help. My gf and I were having sex for our Eight months together on sunday (yesterday) and we were doing fine and we were really into it until i noticed that she was really dry. So i decided to grab some lube and we put the lube on the condom (I use condoms always and she is on depo) but when i inserted my penis into her vagina the lube started heating up and i quickly pulled out and we stopped. Agreed to stop penetration all together and throw away the lube. The heating up has never happened before and we have always used the same lube bottle; it was not expired.
Afterwards we began to cuddle and i began kissing her everywhere ad she was clearly enjoying it. She did tell me to stop due to time limit and i asked her if she really wanted me to stop and she didnt reply just kissed me so i thought it was okay to continue. Also, when she is serious about stopping me she will look me in the eye or push me away because it has happened once when we started (she was not in the mood), but this time she didn't do any of it but smiled and laughed.
I continued for about 15 to 20 mins since she enjoyed it a lot BUT after we stopped I noticed she had a "high and out-of-it" look on her face and she claims to not remember anything that had happened after the first initial kisses; NO RECOLLECTION. I got scared.
She was functioning normally while I was kissing her. No fainting or stiffness. She was talking and encouraging me and acting how she always acts but she remembers none of it.
I'm just scared now. We are going to planned parenthood tomorrow asap but im really nervous and scared and wondering if scarlet teen has any information on this :/
I swear i did not rape her. No penetration of any kind and if i she did not tell me to stop again or give me an answer when i asked her if she really wanted to :'(
She also told me all she remembers is feeling happy and happier and happier and happier and then nothing.
She also explained that it has happened once before when she was losing her virginity and she kicked the guy out.
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Hi Skies93 and welcome to Scarleteen,
I can certainly understand how this would be scary for you.
To find out what is going on, though, it's soundest for your girlfriend to talk with a healthcare provider. It just wouldn't be at all sound for us to try to guess what was happening, and a healthcare provider is really the one who can evaluate what your girlfriend tells them and make specific recommendations.
in terms of the lube heating up, was it one of those lubes that is designed to have a warming effect when it is used?
Just to clarify something: Sexual assault isn't just about penetration, but about doing anything sexual to another person that they didn't want. I'm not saying that you assaulted your girlfriend. The way you describe things, it sounds like you got every indication of consent that you would expect from her based on your prior experience. I just wanted to clarify definitions so you have that information.
best of luck at Planned parenthood.
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