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AwkwardBrah
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Hey everyone, I would love some help.

So I was at a party with a friend of mine, who has liked me for over a year now and has wanted to do more. I don't share the same feelings, so have been keeping it on a friendship level for all this time. Basically we were both drinking, one thing led to another and I caved, and we started fooling around.

We never had sex, She basically grabbed my hands and made me feel her up (Not saying it was her fault I am equal to blame) I then started fingering her, she gave me a hand job and a blowjob but due to being intoxicated I never ejaculated.

In my head I know the only way she could be pregnant is if my precum got on my hands or hers when we were fooling around, and then made it into her vagina,and even then there is a very low chance. Although the last time I had ejaculated was that morning (Although I did masturbate about 20 mins before the party, but also never ejaculated.) and had urinated since then.

Anyway she is freaking out about it, and as a result my anxiety which was already bad has gone out of control. If anyone could reassure me, or let me know the possibilities that would be amazing.

Thank you all.

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Heather
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Hey, Awkward:

You can take a look at this per the pregnancy risk question: Can I Get Pregnant, or Get or Pass On an STI From That?

As you can see there, you're not describing anything that has the capacity to create a pregnancy.

Just for the record, I'm hearing you describe what sounds like sexual assault here, per her grabbing your hands and making you touch her. Is that something you want to talk about?

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AwkwardBrah
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Heather, thank you very much for your reply. And thank you for that insightful link, it really put my mind at ease.

While I did not feel comfortable with her grabbing my hands, I also did not do anything to stop it, and in fact I escalated it afterwards, and arguable put myself in that situation makes it equally our fault. In my opinion.

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Robin Lee
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Hi AwkwardBrah,

I'm really glad to hear the article was helpful to you. [Smile]

What do you think kept you from acting on your discomfort? Do you want to talk at all about how you can help yourself make sure that you're only engaging in sexual activities when you really really want to?

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AwkwardBrah
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Yes, We were both very intoxicated which as a result neither of us were thinking correctly. I think that comes down to be the deciding factor, we both did things neither of us should of done.

And secondly I agree, from now on the sexual experiences that I take part of are not going to be cheapened like this circumstance, but rather more significant in the future.

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