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perry6616
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Ok so I'm gonna try to make this as concise as possible:

I had sex on Friday night (technically Saturday morning) 5/4 at around 3:00 am. It was my first time, I don't know if this matters or not. Things that make me think I might be at risk for getting pregnant:

1) The condom was sliding around. We changed it a couple of times, but it was definitely not secure for at least one of these times.

2) I was not in my right mind (euphemism) so I don't really remember that much. There was a wet spot on the bed after, so I think when he took the condom off some semen spilled out near me.

3) It was a week after my period had ended, so I may have been ovulating.

Things that make me think I may not be at risk:

1) I was on top while he was actually inside me (don't know if this matters -- gravity??)

2) He definitely didn't come inside me.

3) When he was inside me, he was definitely wearing a condom, although I don't know how securely.

4) I took a Plan B pill 30 hrs later.

My question: my period isn't supposed to come until 5/18, and this is a while from now. I am usually perfectly regular, but I understand that Plan B can screw some things up. Basically, I'm just wondering what you would perceive my level of risk of getting pregnant to be. Thanks in advance -- I'm in college and I have finals right now, so I REALLY don't need this extra stress...

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It's okay for condoms to move around a little bit: the issue with failure is if and when the condom slides OFF, especially when it does so inside of the vagina.

What I am hearing is that a condom was used for all genital contact, that it didn't break or slip off AND you also used Plan B. Do I have this right?

If so, a pregnancy would be highly unlikely.

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Yeah, that is correct. Thank you so much for replying so quickly! And wow thanks it's good to know that the sliding around thing is normal, I was not aware of that.

What I'm mostly concerned about is that when he removed the condom some of the semen might have come into contact with the outer part of my vagina, which is why I took Plan B. Do you think this is a legitimate concern?

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Did he remove it properly? In other words, was he holding the base of the condom when he withdrew?

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Errr I don't really remember... He didn't come while we were actually having sex, i.e. he was wearing the condom, pulled out, came, and then took the condom off. This was all near me but never inside. If any semen got inside it was a very small amount -- do you think the Plan B would have been effective, even though I took it 30 hrs after the incident?
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If you don't know, then I think you should figure that that would have been the only reason you DID need the Plan B, if he hadn't withdrawn properly and did ejaculate inside your vagina because of that.

So, again, I'm not seeing a likely risk here at all.

But -- and you had to see this coming -- I'd strongly advise anyone to be IN their right mind when making sexual choices, so that you can be sure you don't set yourself up for worries or risks you don't want to handle or feel up to handling, okay? Just something to take from this moving forward, I'd say.

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Yeah this is definitely never going to happen like this again. Lesson learned... Thanks so much for your replies!
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Sure thing. [Smile] Anything else I can help you with today?

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Going forward, what method of birth control would you recommend? I don't have a boyfriend so I'm not really keen on going on a birth control pill for a variety of reasons (I don't want the side effects, and I honestly have no idea if I'm even going to need birth control any time soon). But if I do want to have sex sometime in the near future, I really don't want to be in this situation again. Would you say it is enough just make sure I'm fully aware of the situation and continue to use condoms?
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There's really no one right method for everyone: this is something very individual.

Have you looked through this yet? It includes choices for people who'd prefer not to use an ongoing method, so can tell you about methods like condoms, cervical barriers, withdrawal or natural family planning: Birth Control Bingo!

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I'll take a look, thanks! Other than that I think I am all set, thank you for your help.
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You got it. [Smile] Take care of yourself.

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