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Mila Artenton
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I'm 17. I gave my bf a handjob that day. I stopped before he ejaculated, but probably got some pre ejaculate on my hand. Then I washed my hand with soap and water. Then took a shower and obviously washed "down there".

My period is 4 days late. My period has always been irregular, the latest being 16 days late.

Symptoms I have:
I have a freaking lot of acne appearing on my face!
Stomach Cramps
Sore breasts
Weird "blood smell" at my vagina (SORRY TMI)

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HI Mila Artenton, and welcome to Scarleteen,

No, what you describe cannot lead to pregnancy. In order for pregnancy to occur, there needs to be direct contact between a bare penis and a bare vulva, or direct contact between freshly ejaculated semen onto a bare vulva (so, someone ejaculating directly onto the vulva).

I presume that you're describing your symptoms because you're wondering if they're a sign of pregnancy. Signs of pregnancy would not show up this early. Do you usually experience these thinges-sore breasts, etc--before your period?

Also, it doesn't sound as if your period is late at all, given that it's irregular. [Smile]

Hope this helps.

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Mila Artenton
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Hello, thanks for replying.

I do get those symptoms before my period.. but I guess I'm just freaking out.

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You're very welcome.

It sounds then like your body is following its usual pattern, with the start day of your period not being very predictable and with you having your usual premenstrual symptoms. [Smile]

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Mila Artenton
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Oh by the way, I have another question. Hope you don't mind!

I do have anxiety.. but I don't go to a therapist or anything because we can't afford it right now..

Do you think that because of my anxiety, I could be "scaring" myself into all these symptoms? After reading your post, I started to feel like maybe a little nauseous and also I actually feel like there's something in my lower abdomen!

I know that, you said what I described cannot lead to pregnancy, but because my period is nowhere to be found, I am just so freaking anxious and freaking out.. alot. But you did help a lot!

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I know this is scary, but I think it's important to remember that your period not being here yet is not unusual for you.

Have you experienced these kinds of symptoms with your anxiety before? Many of the symptoms you described can very much be associated with anxiety for many people, particularly nausea. [Smile]

It sounds like money is tight for your family, but have you explored low-cost or no-cost therapy options? do you have a doctor or other healthcare provider who has evaluated your anxiety? If so, they could maybe help with this?

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No.. but I'll probably do that. Thanks a bunch! [Smile]
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Mila Artenton
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Do you think I should be seeing a doctor about my irregular periods?

My latest one was 16 days late! But last month, it was only 2 days late.

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How do you chart your periods? How long have you been menstruating?

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Mila Artenton
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I'm 17 now.. I've been menstruating ever since I was 11. I've NEVER had a regular period.

Most of the time, they're 5-10 days late. Sometimes a little less, sometimes a litte more.

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When you say you are usually 5-10 days late, I wonder how you arrive at that number. How long is your average cycle? How do you figure out when your next period should be due?

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Hmm.. its probably not correct but.. if I get it on the 20th this month, I expect it 20th next month. :/ & count from there.
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Yep, that is not how you chart your menstrual cycle.

This is what you do: on the first day of your period, you start counting - right up to the first day of your next period. The number of days between those two days, that is how long your menstrual cycle was that month. On average, that is going to be around 28 days, but some women have cycles that are shorter than that, and others cycles that are longer than that. The key is figuring out what that number is for you - and that is what will help you predict your periods better.

So, I'd not jump to the conclusion yet that your periods are wildly irregular. To find out, you'll want to start counting like I explained above. Once you've been doing that for a few months, you'll start to see a pattern emerging.

Also, even a regular period does not arrive on exactly the day you would expect it to. Having a cycle that is 30 days long one month, 32 days the next, and 29 the one after that would still be what we call a regular menstrual cycle.

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Thanks for the quick reply! That's pretty much what I mean. But it's always more than 30 days.. Sometimes its 46, Sometimes 40, sometimes 35.
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Well, it being longer than 30 days is not a big deal. Some women do have cycles on the longer side, up to 40 or more days. However, if you have variations of 10 or more days from cycle to cycle, then yes, your cycle is irregular.

Since you're not routinely skipping periods altogether, and you are still fairly young, this does not sound like a cause for concern. However, it is certainly something you an bring up at your next check up with the gynecologist.

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Hmm.. its probably not correct but.. if I get it on the 20th this month, I expect it 20th next month. :/ & count from there.
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Do you note the start dates of each period? If you do, you could go back and look to see if there is, indeed, a pattern. There really are no rules with menstrual cycles; many many people (including me) do not, and have never had, the 28-day cycle that people think of as "normal."

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Mila Artenton
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Omg. Now I'm spotting? The blood is brown?
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What would you like us to address, particularly understanding that we can't know why you're spotting?

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Well.. If it was implantation bleeding, when would it start after sexual contact?
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Implantation bleeding is only going to be something that occurs -- when it does, it's less common rather than more -- with people who are pregnant. And you haven't posted about anything you have done here that could have created a pregnancy.

That alone tells you clearly this isn't implantation bleeding, because you cannot be pregnant from what you described.

When it does happen, though, it happens when a fertilized egg is implanting in the uterine wall, and that's usually around a week after someone has actually engaged in what CAN create a pregnancy.

All you can really do for now, if you're not going to accept what we've told you about pregnancy not being possible, is to wait this out until you can take a pregnancy test. And that'll be when it has either been at least two weeks from when you first posted (assuming what you posted about happened that same day) or when your period is late.

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