I had sex for the first time last night, and the second time this morning... and I bled a lot more than I was expecting to. I've used sex toys and fingers before so I figured there would be little to none but not the case.
The guy I was with (who has slept with virgins before) freaked out and got REALLY annoyed that it ended up on the sheets then told me blood was a turn off and ended it early.
Today I'm getting a little dark colored discharge and I'm really sore.
Where you relaxed and aroused? Did you two make sure to go slowly and use lots of lube?
Bleeding with vaginal entry has less to do with whether it is someone's first time and more to do with whether is relaxed and well-lubricated. So, when you have all those things in place, there should be no bleeding.
The bleeding should be gone by tomorrow, and this is not usually something you need to see a doctor about. However, if you continue to bled for much longer than that, and/or if you feel that you are bleeding quite heavily, it's not a bad idea to give your gynecologist a call.
Lastly, it does not sound like the guy you were with handled the situation very gracefully. Bodily fluids, including blood, are part of the reality of having sex, and having the maturity to deal with that is part of being ready for sex. To boot, it sounds out like he freaked out in a way that was disrespectful to do. So, I would suggest you reconsider whether this is a safe person to be having sex with.
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